Archive for the ‘Grace’ Category

Empathy

April 16, 2025

Dialectic reasoning in philosophical reasoning contrasts two views that lead to a new level of thought.

Try these:

The fundamental weakness of Western civilization is empathy.—Elon Musk

The death of human empathy is one of the earliest and most telling signs of a culture about to fall into barbarism.—Hannah Arendt

I tutored a fellow student in German in the university so that he could graduate and accept a good job back home. He did. His wife gave me a big, grateful hug. I was happy for him.

During a session we discussed the two professors of German at the university (it was one of the many small, quality Liberal Arts universities that Ohio is known for—Ohio Northern), I remarked about how one came from Vienna and wound up in small Ada, Ohio. “I don’t care,” he replied. And he didn’t. He lacked empathy.

I’ve met many since then who have an emotional gap where empathy should have been living.

Have you? Or are you missing that emotion?

Empathy doesn’t mean agreeing with. It’s sort of feeling with. When you meet someone, you can feel what they feel in the sense of understanding where they are coming from.

Looking at my guide, Jesus seemed always to find that empathy toward everyone he met. Then he knew how to interact with each individual person. He could be kind and understanding; he could point out flaws in thinking or living without any obnoxious arguing; he could guide people into a better and deeper understanding.

We would be wise to emulate him.

Grace

March 4, 2025

Some believe that God’s grace hits you from “out of the blue” one and done. Certainly there are examples of people who have been unexpectedly overwhelmed by God’s grace. I just shared the song “Amazing Grace” at a gathering—a story of one such encounter.

Those of us in the tradition of John Wesley recognize that grace is actually an integral part of our spiritual journey. 

I lifted this thought from a fitness newsletter by Arnold Schwarzenegger. “Fitness is not a 30-day challenge or even 90 days. Fitness is a lifelong commitment.” 

This applies not only to our physical life, but also it applies to our spiritual journey. I think this fits with John Wesley’s ideas—we can call it Prevenient grace where God is already at work on us before we become aware, Justifying grace hits us (sometimes hard) when we cross from unbelief to belief, and Sanctifying grace nurtures our spiritual growth throughout our lives.

Spiritual life is not one-and-done. Spiritual life becomes a journey of both personal growth and service. Paul’s letter of spiritual development (Romans) does not end with belief. You must not stop reading at chapter 11. Paul continues in what we call chapters 12-15 to describe life after belief. It is how we live our life in grace.

The old gospel song “I Have Decided to Follow Jesus” includes the line “No turning back, no turning back.”

Following Jesus is a lifelong commitment.

Are You Polite or Kind?

December 13, 2024

Think on the various conversations Jesus participated in as recorded in the various Gospels.

The rich young man, Nicodemus, the Syrian/Phoenician woman with a sick daughter, the Samaritan woman at the well. And more.

He was strong, but kind, with the rich young man who was a perfectionist regarding keeping the laws of the religion. But Jesus saw his heart. He pointed out to the man where he needed to grow.

Nicodemus, a religious leader, came with questions. Jesus answered directly, but also by giving him something to think about.

I love the way he bantered with the Syrian/Phoenician woman before telling her of healing.

The Samaritan woman, opposite of the rich young man who thought he did everything right, went to the well for water when the other women would be gone so as not to face them. Jesus did not pat her on the back (metaphorically) and tell her things could be worse. He saw also the condition of her heart, confronting her with how to grow becoming healthy.

Being polite is withholding feedback in order to make someone feel good today. Being kind is being candid about how they can get better tomorrow.

Let us ponder on how to be candid, yet kind, like Jesus.

Question About Interruptions

October 14, 2024

Jon Swanson asks great questions—a skill I continue to cultivate. Think on this one during your daily meditation.

When you’re focused on the destination, are you willing to let Jesus interrupt you? Do you take time to notice?

Grace is Spiritual WD40

August 16, 2024

Writer Anne Lamott mentioned that in a recent interview.

I love that thought.

WD40 is an all-purpose lubricant.

It reduces friction.

It allows surfaces to slide freely.

It loosens stuck screws.

A little like John the Baptizer’s role was to make the path smoother for Jesus.

As our path of sliding toward God, Grace smooths the way reducing friction.

Two Kinds of Christians

July 16, 2024

I’ve experienced two types of Christians.

Judgement

The picture that immediately comes to mind is the preacher who comes to No Name City in the play/movie Paint Your Wagon. Dressed in black, aggressive attitude, crazed look in his eyes. But that is a caricature.

Most judge like “death by a thousand paper cuts.” A critical comment tossed out here. A Facebook post hurriedly typed there. A focus on sins, foibles, failures—of others.

Grace

The popular song Amazing Grace describes the grace that can come to an individual. However Mother Teresa’s image popped quickly to mind. She symbolizes not my grace but the grace shared outward to others.

Grace shared outward can be a large focus of an entire life. It also lives in every small act of kindness toward humans and even animals. That’s because it emanates from who you are, from deep within the heart.

Learning To Live With Our Flaws

May 28, 2024

Wabi Sabi contains the meaning of living with inevitable flaws. This Japanese phrase adapts to a method of repairing broken pottery emphasizing the cracks rather than trying to hide them.

Many straight-A students are driven to perfectionism by fear of failure, fear of not being good enough. Often B and C students live better lives, are happier, and achieve greater things. Yet many parents and school systems emphasize the desirability of achieving straight-A status.

Looking to Jesus for advice on how to live, I see how he pokes at the Pharisees’ attempts to both live a perfect life and expect others to live a perfect life. He tended to show what we call grace toward people. He taught a life of constant tuning of the heart. 

I hate to be the bearer of this news for some of you, but perfectionism is not a sustainable lifestyle. We have to accept the little flaws in our coffee mug as well as those little flaws of sometimes saying the wrong thing or failing to help out when we could. Sometimes we are simply not perfect. And that’s OK. As long as we do the right things and have our hearts in the right place.

Whittling Down Jesus

May 2, 2024

Maybe it’s just me. When I was taught the stories and sayings of Jesus as a youth, I really believed that Jesus meant what he said. And I believed that as much as was within our power we should strive to do likewise.

Then I came across people calling themselves Christian who seemed to have such a smaller view of Jesus. Judging by words and actions, they seemed to have a smaller version of Jesus. It’s like they whittled him down to make an easier to understand, less demanding version. In the end, following Jesus became doing what we really wanted to do anyway.

We must cultivate the humility to step outside our own opinions and desires and learn from what Jesus actually said and did. 

When he told us to love our neighbor (and gave the example of the “Good Samaritan”), and when he told us to pray for our enemies, we must set aside our prejudices and do exactly that.

When have you (or I) reached out beyond our generation or race or cultural state and helped someone different or prayed for someone outside our circle of comfort? Yes, you “liberal”, pray for the “white supremacist.” And you white supremacist  pray for someone with a different color of skin. Pray for that outcast. Pray for the person possessing great wealth. 

Jesus is big. Let’s treat him as such. 

Kindness, Generosity, Respect

March 8, 2024

I remember talking with education majors at university. They wanted to just teach skills. They neither wanted to model or teach any kind of morals.

How many of us, I wonder, of mine and succeeding generations have also abdicated teaching morals to the next generation?

I don’t mean the kind of teaching from many (most?) Protestant churches and also from what little I know of Catholic youth education. How often was that teaching geared toward all of the personal “thou shalt nots”? Thou shalt not drink, smoke, have fun.

I mean the sort of things we need to inculcate into ourselves and teach the next generations—the skills and inclination to treat each other with kindness, generosity, and respect. It begins with me and what I model. It’s like John Fischer’s theme—Grace Turned Outward.

A Blessing for this Day

December 22, 2023

I am writing this the day after the Winter solstice. For us in the Northern Hemisphere the days will be getting longer each day for the next six months. Christmas is a feast day celebrated in ancient times as the day they definitely knew that the days were getting longer and the optimism of light and warmth grew.

It is only natural that the early Church co-opted the day to celebrate the light of God entering the world. It’s a celebration. I hope you all can find a way to celebrate this year.

I leave you with this blessing for the day from John O’Donohue:

May I live this day

Compassionate of heart,

Clear in word,

Gracious in awareness,

Courageous in thought,

Generous in love.

John O’Donohue