Archive for the ‘Ethics’ Category

Jesus, Others, You

September 15, 2011

Our church sponsors a summer camp with the foundational theme of JOY-Jesus, Others, You. Put Jesus first in your life, then others, then you. Our society, at least in America, seems to be It’s All About Me. When I read about the political situation in our nation’s capital and the state capitals, what I see is “entitlement.” The difference between the parties is simply which group of voters, er, people are entitled to handouts. Even the Tea Party is all about me–they want to keep more of their money (but they don’t seem to want to give up programs that benefit them directly).

I travel a lot, so I spend a lot of time on airlines. As a frequent flyer, I board early in the process. It gives me an opportunity to observe. Last week a middle aged couple boarded with way more than the allowed two carry ons. The plane was a small regional jet with small overhead compartments. The woman had the maximum legal size roller case. Flight attendant told her to leave it on the jet bridge. Woman got mad. Attendant said, “All the green tagged bags must be gate checked.” Woman said, “What if I take off the tag?” Thing is, it would not have fit.

Then the couple starts looking at the limited overhead space to store their goods. Tried to use the space reserved for the bulkhead passengers who don’t have underseat storage. Flight Attendant, now their enemy, explains some things about storage. Man winds up putting a large shopping bag behind his legs blocking seat access. Oops, violation of safety rules. They have a couple of other violations. Flight Attendant makes several announcements over the PA system. Then on final check asks the couple to comply with safety regulation. They get even further mad. “XX is going to hear about this.”

OK, maybe they’ve never flown before. But when the world revolves around you, you don’t notice others.

Yesterday I wrote about a church where all the members care about others. Then I wonder, given our narcissistic society, is it possible to move people from self-centeredness to caring about others. Guess it takes God to break through?

Thinking about people or a person

August 8, 2011

I spent last week at a very technical conference. Lot of talk about programming for industrial applications. You’ll have to bear with me a little for the analogy to develop. Anyway, I got to thinking about abstraction–that is a way of thinking where you ignore the details and focus on generalities.

The company whose user conference I attended has developed software that allows programmers to handle complex programming tasks with greater success and ease. It’s a process called abstraction. Instead of concentrating on lines and lines (sometimes thousands of lines of densely worded text called code), the code is abstracted into small pictures that can be “wired” together. In this case, abstraction works to great benefit.

Then on the plane ride home watching the TED Talks videos on my iPad, I saw a talk given by a marvelous teacher. Then I thought about much political debate (and many people’s thoughts) over the past decade or longer about teachers. Get the distinction? One teacher or a group known as “teachers.”

Where is our focus? Do we think of people in terms of a group? Or individuals? It’s easy to make villains you hate about a group when you know many  individuals in that group whom you admire. In this case, abstraction from the individual to the group is not productive.

I can’t think of a time when Jesus dealt with groups as an abstraction. He dealt with individuals. John, in his Gospel, makes some abstractions (he often talks of “the Jews”), but John is also full of irony. He makes a comment about the Pharisees (the group) but also has talked about an individual Pharisee (Nicodemus). John likes that kind of contrast.

But I have concern when we try to reduce everyone to groups and fail to see the individual. The pastor yesterday talked about meeting a “weird” guy and then discovering he was a pastor. He went from abstraction to individual. That is much more beneficial in our lives. Instead of getting ourselves all worked up and stressing ourselves over abstracted groups that disagree with us, perhaps we could see individuals who are fellow seekers. Who have different ideas for now as they are puzzling out the same things we are–how to live with God.

Don’t look at “them.” Look at her. Look at him.

Search for Justice

July 21, 2011

I’m not sure where this post is going. I’m beginning without an end in mind, because this incident is a tragedy.

While I was in Florida, the Casey Anthony case was coming to a close. She is the young woman accused of causing her 2-yr-old daughter to die. I think the entire population of the state watched the trial on TV. The jury voted acquittal after almost no deliberations. The one juror who spoke (probably the leader of the small group) hung her vote on a comment the defense attorney made at the beginning–that since there was no way to know the cause of death, there was no way to convict her of first-degree murder.

The facts as I got them were that Anthony was a terrible mother. She fed the little child prescription drugs to make her sleep so that she could go out partying. After the girl died, she hid the body until decomposition set in such that it was impossible to conduct an autopsy, all the while saying the baby was at the nanny’s (there was no nanny).

To take the jurors’ side (which is difficult for me), the trial was in Orlando, but they brought the jury in from Tampa. They were housed in a hotel together with no outside contact for the duration of the trial. One juror was booked on a cruise that left the Thursday after the Fourth. His motivation was hardly justice. It was getting out.

Meanwhile, Anthony has been offered $1 million for her story. And she is now free–at least of jail.

What kind of society do we live in? My disgust with lawyers reaches the same height as my disgust with politicians. But the sensationalist media makes both of them look like amateurs.

I keep asking myself, where would Jesus fit into this story. What a tragedy that no one stepped in to guide Anthony into a responsible life. What a tragedy that the parents first went along and then turned on her, but never provided tough love and guidance. What a tragedy that a little child dies and there is no criminal justice.

But I can pray that somehow the tragedy breaks through Anthony’s shell; that the tragic results of her lifestyle brought nothing but grief to her and her family become clear to her and that she is shown a better life. Many people have overcome tragedy to become Christ followers with great effect. We can pray that the same happens to her.

Judge With Right Judgment

June 16, 2011

Jesus healed a man on the Sabbath. “The Jews” (as John calls them) were aghast. These people had the 10 Commandments. Then they had all the laws of Leviticus. And other laws. And laws developed over centuries to explain the laws. (sounds a little like our society, but that’s a different story).

God said, set aside a day of the week to honor me and keep it holy. What does that mean? Well, it took hundreds of laws and interpretations to explain that one simple sentence.

Jesus, a self-proclaimed rabbi who should have known better, broke one of them. You can’t work, and healing is work, so judge him guilty. And already there were people in power who wanted to kill Jesus.

Jesus answers them (see John 7). He seemed to be always pointing out to people that they aren’t doing what they tell others to do. He says, you condemn me for healing on the Sabbath, “Did not Moses give you the law? Yet none of you keeps the law. Moses gave you circumcision, and you circumcise a man on the Sabbath.”

Jesus also said, you judge by outward appearance. Instead, judge with right judgement.

When I was growing up, Christians were called a bunch of hypocrites. Play actors who wore masks that showed an outward appearance of perfection, yet unclean on the inside. While I’ve been “spiritual” for as long as I can remember, I struggled well into my 20s whether to call myself “Christian.” I didn’t want to be one of “them.”

We are all unclean inside. There is no greater or lesser. If it’s a little, it’s a lot. To set up lots of rules and pretend to follow them so that we can accuse others of not following them is to be the sort of person that Jesus condemned. Jesus had tremendous empathy and love for broken people. He had little patience for those who sat back in their comfortable persona pretending to be clean and condemning others for not being like them.

I seek to understand people. But I hate myself when I get one of those judgment thoughts. I know Jesus hates that, too.

For Whom Are You Working

June 14, 2011

John, the evangelist, quoted Jesus, “Those who speak on their own, seek their own glory; but the one who seeks the glory of him who sent him is true, and there is nothing false in him.”

I read this over the weekend and asked myself how that applies to me. In my professional life, I am pretty well-known in my industry. Whenever I write something or whenever I’m thinking about our magazine or company, I often stop to ponder if I’m just reporting and analyzing fairly, or if I’m doing something to seek more reputation.

While I was pondering this thought from Jesus and before I had time to write, a cool thing happened. The Dallas Mavericks defeated the Miami Heat for the championship of the National Basketball Association.

I don’t follow the NBA anymore. Too many selfish prima donnas there. And the top self-promoter as the world’s greatest basketball player is LeBron James. To orchestrate an hour-long TV special about his decision to leave the Cleveland Cavaliers (where he failed to bring a championship, often faltering in the fourth quarter in clutch situations), he proclaimed he would bring a championship to Miami. Well he faltered again in the clutch.

Someday Miami may win a championship. Maybe not. I don’t care. But to see the triumph of a team that plays like a team over a self-proclaimed great player was rewarding.

Jesus said that if you seek glory for the one who sent you, there is nothing false in you.

No matter what you are doing, stop occasionally and ask, “For whom do I work?” Certainly in America we’ve generated a mindset of getting ahead on our own merits. “What’s in it for me” is the mantra. Jesus implies that there is something false there. But if your mantra is “What’s in it for God and others” then you are approaching truth.

Is Ignorance an Excuse

June 2, 2011

I guess I’ll stay on the hot news topic for another analysis. I’m still reading a little about Jim Tressel, the recently ousted football coach at The Ohio State University. Seems according to Sports Illustrated magazine that Tressel has a history of problems with players breaking the rules but has always pleaded ignorance. But things usually come out and it seems that Tressel did know about the latest transgressions and chose to not tell anyone.

This isn’t about football, OSU, the NCAA (the governing body of college athletics–for whom I have little respect), or even Tressel himself. The issue is something we all face–do we acknowledge when we have done wrong and take the consequences or do we plead ignorance and try to avoid blame?

“I didn’t know that was  wrong.” “What? You mean I shouldn’t have done that?” “I didn’t think it was that big of a deal.”

Ever try one of those? The story of Ananias and Sapphira in The Acts comes to mind. They thought they could feign ignorance and hide facts from their community and from God. They were found out.

In the end, we’re all found out. Ethics is hard. We make decisions many times a day that determine how our life will play out. Sometimes it’s easy to pretend we don’t know. But it all catches up to us.

I guess we can look at the travails of the guy who was the highest-paid state employee and take delight in his discomfort–or rush to defend.

The issue isn’t Tressel. It’s us. You and me. Will our next decision be one that we’d be proud for our grandmothers to know about? Can we face God and say we honestly tried to do right?

Lack of Ethics Always Catches Up

May 31, 2011

I spent my 24th straight Memorial Day weekend in Dayton, Ohio at a huge youth soccer tournament. This year for the most part I was mentoring and assessing the performance of many younger referees. There are so many people stories when you gather thousands together in a competitive atmosphere.

But, I live in Ohio. In the middle of Ohio State University Buckeye fanatic territory. I’m not a fan–of OSU or college football in general–but you can’t escape it. And you can’t escape the big news of the weekend. Ultra successful football coach Jim Tressell has resigned in the face of potential harsh sanctions from the athletic “governing body” the NCAA. Why? What we know right now (more probably coming) is that he knew that his star quarterback and several other stars were violating NCAA rules. He knew and he kept quiet. With them, he had almost a national championship year, a Big Ten conference championship, and the potential for further fame, glory and money.

It’s tough being a person. It’s tough being ethical. All of us face issues every day. It’s often around sex, money or power. I appreciate the irony of the politician or religious leader who has been preaching “values” only to be undone by personal weakness. No one is immune.

We’ve lived through many years of blaming it on the environment. That’s when I parted ways with “liberals”–when they embraced the idea of blaming things on something or someone else. Yes, parents can screw up a kid. But many people grow up to be productive, ethical people despite a rough childhood.

Seth Godin is a marketing guru. But he hits on some pithy observations. Here’s a quote from a recent blog post:

A door is not responsible if it swings and hits you in the nose. Neither is the hand of the guy who punched you.
Philosphers and lawyers talk about agency. Responsibility comes with the capacity to act in the world. If you can decide, if you can act, you have agency.Life without agency would be a nightmare. Trapped in a box, unable to do anything by choice, nothing but a puppet…
Why then, do organizations and individuals struggle so intently to avoid the responsibility that comes with agency? “It’s not my job, my boss won’t let me, there’s a federal regulation, we’re prohibited, it’s our supplier, that’s our policy…”
It’s not something you can turn on or off. Either you have the capacity to act in the world. Or you don’t.
You are an agent. Responsible for your decisions and actions. Take that responsibility and behave according to your faith. I think every one of Jesus’ encounters with people dealt with some measure of taking responsibility and behaving ethically. Do likewise–even if it is darn hard.

What Does Your Life Say About You

May 19, 2011

Dallas Willard was the first to plainly state what I suspected about the first Christians–that they actually did live differently from their neighbors. The power of the Spirit so infused and ordered their lives that other people noticed and many were attracted to this new religious movement.

In America, we too often live our lives with bumper-sticker phrases when we should be actually living in the Spirit minute-by-minute. I’m not sure why, maybe it’s 25 years of refereeing soccer at some pretty high levels, but I’ve become quite observant of people. And I puzzle out motivations and actions.

So when recently stuck in a long line of traffic headed for an event at a venue where access is congested by design (or lack thereof) I notice an expensive, white Mercedes with the license plate “BORN 2X” I presume the driver/owner is a self-proclaimed Christian. After all, I had just read the story in John about Jesus’ encounter with Nicodemus and the born of water and born of Spirit discussion.

So I watch to see if the driver exhibits Christian tendencies. You decide (if you know how to drive in traffic, it will help you understand).

Traffic is backed up for two miles on the freeway because of congestion at the intersection at the end of the exit ramp. One reason for the congestion is that people are in a hurry to get through, so they block the intersection by going through a yellow-changing-to-red traffic light but can’t make it and so block traffic.

This white Mercedes driver decides that waiting in the line is too long and switches to the left lane. That’s OK. Except when we reach the intersection, he makes an illegal right turn on red. But traffic is backed up, so he now block four lanes of traffic.

Ten minutes and 400 meters later, I notice that car on my left as I pass it. He gained nothing trying to press an advantage. And that advantage pushed other people back.

So, I ask myself, what life is he proclaiming? What life do you proclaim? Do you so order your life that it is attractive to others who would like what you have?

Clean My Heart O God

March 30, 2011

So yesterday I contemplated sin as a life out of balance. Then I went out for my morning run. I listen to “podcasts” when I work out (audio talks and programs downloaded to my iPod). As things often work, I listened to Willow Creek Community Church senior pastor Bill Hybels who was talking on sin.

It seems there was a king who decided not to lead his troops into battle but stayed home. While looking out over the city from his palace in his idleness, he saw a beautiful woman on a nearby rooftop. He desired her, sent a servant to bring her to him, had sex with her that led to pregnancy, had her husband killed so that he could marry her to cover up the act. Whew. What a list of sins.

This king’s name was David. His friend Nathan came to him one day and told him a story. The story indicted David and pierced David’s soul as if like an arrow. You can read about David’s repentance in Psalm 51.

Two verses stand out to me. In one, David says (verse 3) “for I know my transgressions, and my sin is ever before me.” One consequence of sin, that is doing things that you know are wrong and send your life away from God, is that you can’t forget. Like Lady Macbeth, you just can’t wash the blood from your hands. It weighs on your mind.

There are times when I am contemplating and it seems that every sin I’ve ever committed flashes before my eyes. I am reminded constantly.

But David goes on to ask God (verse 10), “Create in me a clean heart, O God, and put a new and right spirit within me.”

Jesus came to show us the way to that clean heart. He showed us the way to God. He said I will die and show you the resurrection. I will die and show you that God can create in you a clean heart and you don’t have to listen to the Accuser who tells you that you aren’t good enough, that your sins are too great.

Ask God for that right spirit.

Contributing Money In a Crisis

March 18, 2011

I’m sorry. I went to California this week (Sacramento and Auburn, not LA and San Diego–it was cold and rainy) and my usual combination of late dinners and early meetings wrecked my schedule. Chicago next week shouldn’t be so bad. But Hanover, Germany the first week of April will be another grueling week at one of the world’s largest manufacturing trade shows. But, I’ll be six hours ahead of EDT, so maybe I’ll still blog on time.

The world is gripped by the crises in Japan. First the earthquake and tsunami that apparently killed over 16,000 people (this follows the devastating earthquakes in New Zealand–and no, I don’t think this is a sign of the end of times–but my heart is always ready). As if that wasn’t bad enough, the natural disasters have caused big problems for a nuclear reactor in Japan, that, if it is damaged enough, could send large amounts of radiation into the air possibly killing many more people.

People in North America and Western Europe, and probably much of the rest of the world, are personally quite generous in the face of crises. Perhaps because Japan is a prosperous country, I have not seen the number of fund-raising efforts that I’ve seen for some other disasters, for example Haiti.

I recently read something that reminded me about giving in these times. Know ahead of time the general relief agencies that you trust and give them the money–but do not earmark it. I have read where much money donated for Haiti is sitting unused because the agencies must spend it there, but the infrastructure is so poor that it is actually hard to get the money to the right people in the right manner.

An unfortunate situation among humans is the character flaw of greed. This is universal, by the way. You probably automatically thought of poor, small, undeveloped countries where the wealthy minority siphon off money thought to be going for development.

Ah, no, greed is a universal human flaw. Just look at the small number of Americans who latched on to great wealth on Wall Street a couple of years ago before almost destroying a banking system that caused the rest of us great financial strain. Of course, many of these people use their wealth to become politicians and blame the rest of us for the financial predicament the world faces.

Pray for the people affected by these disasters. Pray for those valiant heroes who are trying to keep the nuclear reactors under control. Give money to relief agencies that work directly with people (rather than government to government). Thank God that you’ve been spared–this time.