Archive for the ‘Ethics’ Category

Love or Lack of Intimacy

October 9, 2012

I know this is a little late for the Eastern Time Zone readers, but it’s just after 6 in LA. Long day yesterday followed by a great dinner with 70 or so of my “closest friends”–other media representatives and managers and customers of Emerson Process Management. (Oh, and great to see one of my readers from Brazil this week.)

I was contemplating how to approach the first of the Spiritual fruit in Paul’s list–love. One discussion last night was on how sexually aggressive high school girls have become. And how so often high school boys are just not equipped for the expectations of those girls. And how it’s “just sex” primarily into oral sex, which is hardly benefits the girl any.

Christians have almost always liked to mock current culture (whenever that current might have been). But it is true that for maybe 40 years books, movies and TV shows have concentrated on sex and sexual images with few stories of intimacy along with it. In fact there was a long article about this topic in a recent issue of The Atlantic Monthly.

Sort of makes you wonder. What if so many in a generation don’t experience that falling in love feeling? And the feeling of loss when it’s over? And finding the feeling again at a deeper level as you mature.

In English, we only have one word. The Greeks in the New Testament time had at least three. We are stuck in Eros. How about Agape?

How can we teach our youth about love at a deeper, more committed level, than only sex. By example? Actually, often it’s not just youth. How many people as old as in their 50s still need that lesson?

Perhaps a life of pursuing  Spiritual Practices helps.

The Effects of Sin Ripple Wide

October 5, 2012

Is the word “sin” used so much that we become numb to feeling the power of the emotions and effects of sinful behavior? Or has the word become trivialized in the modern world–as in the sense that many people only hear or see the word on the dessert menu describing a “sinfully delicious” sweet?

Some sins may be private–just between us and God. Others impact large numbers of people. Sexual sin often is that latter category. It begins as a private act, but rapidly reverberates through the lives of many people.

Recently I’ve heard of the suicides of two men who apparently were caught up in sexual sin. A speaker I heard recently asked, “If sex is just a physical act, why is its misuse so emotionally devastating?” I don’t even know any of the people involved in just these two cases, yet I’m saddened by the results.

In the New Testament, the writers of the Gospels used the word “demons” to describe that type of sin. Jesus cured those dysfunctional and even evil emotions that had captured a person. It was described as driving out demons.

We have 100 years of scientific psychologists who have developed an entire vocabulary describing these demons. Then we have people who, like me, tend to think too much. Many use scientific definitions and explanations to say we have no control over those emotions. It’s all our mother’s fault as the popular use of Freud’s theories have it.

I suppose that some people are just born evil. For most of us, though, it starts with a simple decision to yield to an emotional impulse. Instead of practicing good intellectual and spiritual control over our emotions, we decide to follow the wrong way.

That’s why teaching Spiritual Practices is so important. We learn how to point our lives toward control by God rather than control by demons.

At times like these I sense a small part of what Jesus must have felt when he looked at the people around him and sighed. They could be living with-God, but they weren’t.

Moral Leadership

October 4, 2012

Pastor and church leader Andy Stanley teaches often on leadership. Recently he tackled the topic of political leadership. “What if our leaders made a fearless moral inventory and took appropriate action?” he asked. Congressmen resigning; politicians coming clean and being transparent.

What if also our church leaders? Business leaders? Us?

Stanley made two comments that have stuck with me. First, he asked the question, “Do you view religion through the filter of your politics; or do you view politics through the filter of your religion?” That’s really something to ponder. Which value system comes first?

His second point was that all the politicians we love to criticize have one thing in common–they were elected. By us.

In both cases, change starts within us. Regardless of conservative or liberal, if that person running for office is a moral scoundrel, should we vote for her or him? Think about it.

Once again, I think we need to look at the example of leadership modeled by Nehemiah. Talk about moral authority. When he confronted the local Jewish leaders upon his return to Jerusalem about how they were ripping off many of the people financially, he revealed that not only was he not taxing the people for his income (which was the expected and accepted practice) but he used his own wealth to help them pay back their high interest loans and his own wealth to run the governor’s office and staff.

This is moral authority. He didn’t take on political leadership to become rich. He took it on to serve God.

In all we do, why are we doing it? What do we expect of our leaders?

Overcoming Our Sense of Entitlement

September 17, 2012

Paul said it. James emphasized it. Our tongues can create all manner of troubles–both for us and for others.

YouTube is great, isn’t it? Just like once you had to have access to the limited number of publishers to have your writing published, once you had to have access to the limited number of TV networks or movie companies to get your video published.

Now we have publishing platforms such as WordPress (where this blog is published) or SquareSpace (where my business blog is published) and photo sites such as Flickr where you can see my photos under “Garytheeditor”. Now YouTube is the new TV. And it can get you international attention in an instant.

I’ve been listening to a discussion in another area about Americans’ sense of entitlement. Not just recipients of U.S. government “entitlement programs” (which is probably most of us if you really analyze it), but an attitude that many have that they are entitled to things. We’re entitled to getting stuff. We’re entitled to voice our opinion even if we don’t think about what we say before we say it.

It’s a little like the driver I saw yesterday as I was driving on the freeway. She was entering the freeway along the entrance ramp. What’s the purpose of the entrance ramp? It’s to allow you time to match the speed of traffic and fit in. What was she doing? She set her speed and just expected others to get out of her way. The 18-wheeler couldn’t and didn’t. She wound up stopping (fortunately this was rural interstate so there was space off the travel lanes).

Just so, even we as Christians often feel entitled to just spout out any half-formed opinions and others can just get out of our way. But we can put them on YouTube. They can hurt people. Our words have reach far beyond our close circle.

Freedom requires responsibility. Responsibility is maturity. We’re not entitled to much of anything. God’s grace is for us even though we don’t deserve it. A little humility and gratitude in our attitude helps get us over that feeling of entitlement. It’ll help us avoid the dangers Paul and James warned us about.

Anger Saddens My Soul

September 14, 2012

Today’s headlines shouted out fear and anger. I should know better than read the morning newspaper while I’m making coffee. I’d be much better off continuing my new study of Proverbs and finishing thoughts from Paul’s pastoral letters.

Some in the Muslim world have risen violently in anger sparked by the promotion of an anti-Islam film publicized I guess by that publicity-seeking guy in Florida. Sorry. I didn’t even know the thing existed until yesterday. But with today’s technology, news spreads in an instant. So even the smallest, out-of-the-way person or event can have global repercussions.

Some people just love to provoke other people. Some people lie in wait for an opportunity to be provoked. So here we go with another round.

I just feel sadness in my soul that 2,000 years after Jesus taught us so much about how to live, we still have trouble. So many of “my generation” are all about rights and nothing about responsibility. James and Paul taught us the folly of speaking without thinking. We need to contemplate that.

I’m sad for all the people around the world who think it’s all about whose doctrine is superior instead of entering into a life-changing experience with God. Jesus showed us the way. The fruits of the Spirit are ripe and waiting on the tree for us to pick. And we ignore them at our own–and others’–peril. Instead of provoking arguments, why don’t we try showing how God teaches us to live.

The early church grew because they actually lived differently from their neighbors. And it was attractive and magnetic. And when people asked, they said it was all about this life changing experience with Jesus. We would do well to do the same.

The Real Revolution Is Within You

September 10, 2012

Those of us who identified as “peace and justice evangelicals” in the 1970s and 1980s always struggled with Paul’s writings. A superficial reading of his work, especially the pastoral letters that I’m reading through now, makes it appear that he supported slavery, thought women should be “seen and not heard” and “barefoot, pregnant and in the kitchen” (an old phrase I heard as a youth from somewhere), supported corrupt governments, and more.

My views began to change with deeper reading of his works led by some eminent thinkers and theologians. But even moreso as I contemplate on the two letters of Timothy, Titus and Philemon.

Model of a cool church

In these letters Paul describes a lot about what a “cool” church would look like. What a model of Christian leaders would look like. And then in Philemon, where he describes a relationship.

Philemon was a well-to-do Christian who owned slaves. One of his slaves “escaped” and lived with Paul for some time. The time came for Onesimus to leave Paul and return home. Paul writes a personal letter. The arguments are pretty cagey. But it’s the relationship that is interesting.

The Real Revolution

The real revolution wasn’t in Paul and the early church directly attacking the foundation institutions of the dominant culture–family relationships, economic relationships including slavery, and the like. The real revolution was in how we treat each other. It all starts within the person.

Read Philemon to see what the relationship between a master and slave could be. Not tyrant to subject; but fellow Christians working together. Each had a role, but the power dynamics of the roles were undone.

Jesus didn’t teach a single course on organizational dynamics that I recall. Jesus also knew the power of changing people one at a time.

The real revolution doesn’t come with weapons, hatred, power relationships. The real revolution is within me, and you, and everyone. We change people and then we change society.

Look at the changes in society led by Christians. Abolishing slavery. An equal role for women (OK, there are still some place that need change, but change does come painfully slowly). Better justice (although we still have a long way to go). Reducing insidious racism. Health advances available to more people. Feeding people. Caring for people.

Teaching on Handling Wealth

August 23, 2012

Do you feel wealthy? Have a lot of money? Most of the readers of this publication likely rank above average on the US income distribution. Many are from overseas and probably still rank fairly high. But do you feel it?

I had a friend some 20 years ago whose income was greater than $100,000 per year. He complained about being poor. I’d tell him that he ranked among the top 5% of wage earners in the United States. Didn’t help his attitude. There was an article in today’s Dayton Daily News on the US middle class–household incomes from $39,000 to $118,000.

There was a book published a few years ago (I need to try to find the reference, I’ll browse my library later this week to find the book) that asked the question, if we are doing so much better today, why do we feel so bad. The author pointed out things such as we live in houses twice the size that we grew up in, have more money, have more toys, yet researchers continually return results that show Americans are not happy.

Jesus spent a lot of time talking about our relationship with wealth. The Menlo Park Presbyterian Church staff has been teaching on “Respectable Sins” and last week Kevin Kim spoke on wealth. He cited the story of Jesus and the rich young man. You know, the guy who was perhaps the most perfectly religious guy whom Jesus had ever met. But he went away grieving when Jesus told him to sell all he had, give it to the poor and follow. In his heart, wealth took precedence over God.

A group I’m in has been reading First Timothy. These are tips from Paul the builder to his young friend Timothy who was the church leader. At the very end of the letter, Paul gives instructions about wealthy people.

Typical regarding the subject, Paul does not try to shame wealthy people. Nor does he send them on guilt trips. Just like Jesus who loved the young man in the story. It’s not about having wealth. It’s about who is your God. Paul’s tips to the wealthy were simple, really.

  • Don’t be haughty
  • Don’t set your hope on riches
  • Set your hope on God
  • Do good
  • Be rich in good works
  • Be generous and ready to share

Those instructions apply to us today as much as in the first Century.

Do As I Say, Not As I Do

July 31, 2012

Do as I say, not as I do.

I started thinking about that phrase as I was thinking about the implications of Paul’s advice in 1 Timothy that I discussed yesterday.

Through the mid 20th century, there were role models. Teachers were supposed to exhibit good behaviour, for example. Priests and preachers. I remember a young teacher we had when I was upper class in high school. She was doing something in the cafeteria that she would have admonished a student for doing. She used that phrase.

I heard many education students when I was an undergrad at the university also comment that their behaviour should not be a factor in their teaching. Some preachers/pastors have been prone to the fallacy of thinking that their words should be separated from their deeds.

Paul advises women to be modest and male church leaders to live lives above reproach. Americans read this and are shocked. “You mean we are supposed to act like we tell others?”

Parents learn (too late sometimes) that children mimic what they do, not what they say.

So, don’t do as my colleague, who suggested that if Paul had proof-read what he wrote he would have deleted parts of 1 Timothy. No, he wouldn’t have. His vision of a church was one in which people acted out in life the beliefs that they hold about how God wants us to live.

We may struggle to behave as we wish, but at least we shun hypocrisy.

Be Modest and Humble Before the Lord

July 30, 2012

Our small group is reading 1 Timothy. Got to Chapter 2 yesterday reading about how a church should be a praying church–oh, yes, and how women should dress with modesty before the Lord. The leader suggested that if Paul would have proof read what he wrote, he’d have deleted those couple of sentences. This same (male) leader often has suggested taking a black magic marker to parts of Paul’s instructions.

I had been contemplating that chapter and said that, on the contrary, Paul knew exactly what he was writing. I presume that men, much like through the 19th and much of the 20th centuries, wore pretty boring attire. We started changing by the 70s, but even there we went to khakis and polos rather than black suits, white shirts and ties.

But women–they were for adornment. In those New Testament times according to our resident historian, women displayed the family wealth. You knew the family was wealthy depending upon the amount of jewelery displayed. But I think even more than that, the focus became on the external person of the woman and not on her soul. We are all to be humble before God, but women can show it externally more than the average man when they are not.

I asked the group (rhetorically, of course, and understand that I’m the youngest one in the group), when you stand in front of the mirror getting prepared for church, are you thinking about how great you look or are you thinking about being humble before God.

My wife told me I wasn’t very uplifting to the women. I said, I’m a teacher not a motivational speaker. I want people to think. Is it all about them? Or is it all about God?

So, have I made you stop and think about why you dress as you do? If so, then I succeeded.

Do The Right Thing

July 24, 2012

Wise thought from Andy Stanley, senior pastor of Northpoint Church in suburban Atlanta, from one of his podcasts on leadership. He says he started telling his children this every night when he put them to bed. Doesn’t remember where the phrase came from or when he started.

I think that this is a good one to put on a sticky on your computer monitor, or on your desk, or on your bathroom mirror–somewhere that you will see at least daily and remember it.

“Give me the wisdom to know the right thing and the courage to do the right thing, no matter how hard it gets.”