Archive for the ‘Disciplines’ Category

Happy People Connect With Others

August 16, 2012

I work in an engineering field. Once a friend introduced me to someone and said, “He’s an extroverted engineer. He looks at your shoes when he talks.”

Henry Cloud said during his talk at Willow Creek last weekend that happy people are connectors. The opposite are those people who are detached.

We have the Disciplines of Worship and Celebration where we gather with others to praise God. But I think what Cloud meant was connecting at a different level. When we meet someone, do we connect with them? Do we listen to what they are saying? Ask them for clarification? Support them in their struggles? Rejoice with them in their blessings?

I can remember being a geek when geeks weren’t cool. I can remember not connecting with others, totally caught up in ideas. I don’t remember that there was one special moment when I said to myself, “Other people exist!” But the growing awareness of other people one day came to complete consciousness.

People would say that I’m an extrovert now. Last night at the reception for this week’s conference, I probably talked with 30 of the 50 people at the reception. But in reality, I’m still introverted. But I’ve learned to connect with others. Hopefully in a good way.

Another good self-awareness check is to watch ourselves as we interact with people. Are we focused on them, listening not only to the words, but the cues? Or are we wondering what they think about us, what we are going to say next to show how smart we are? Or worse yet, present in body but not in mind?

Pride Gets In the Way of Life With God

August 13, 2012

“Many people think God exists just to give them blessings.”

I was listening to Scott Scruggs at Menlo Park Presbyterian Church talk last week (on a podcast while I was running in the park, not in the Bay Area), and he made that statement.

The ancient Greeks had a word for that attitude. Hubris. It sort of means too much pride. Or maybe “you’re too full of yourself.” There is another old saying, “Pride goeth before a fall.” Humans have known that condition for a long time.

Thinking about submission, this seems to be an opposite. Instead of thinking and acting as if the universe revolves around me, I acknowledge that there is someone greater than me. Someone who created this universe. Maybe even lots of other universes. How would I know. But He also created me.

What better use of life than to align with the greatest creative power in the universe. How could I fulfill my real purpose in life without being submissive to God and “going with the flow” of God’s creative Spirit?

But things get in the way. Pride is one of them. It’s when I think that I’m the one who matters. Actually, God matters. And God thinks every one of us humans matter.

Sometimes we let ourselves get in the way of fulfilling our destiny. We need to refocus daily on God and what we can do for other people.

Submission and Freedom

August 7, 2012

Submission and Freedom. Makes me think of a couple of books Rollo May wrote (that are still worth reading)–Love and Will; Power and Innocence. Sort of juxtapose two ideas that seem to be opposite but that are actually united in a little dance.

Jesus said that you can’t love two masters. You’ll wind up serving one and hating the other. Many of us, when thinking about freedom, think that we have no masters. I’m not sure how that works in cultures other than American, but many Americans think you’re free when you have no masters. Hence a little bit of the popularity of our “Tea Party” movement.

People who study human beings beginning from ancient times knew that it is impossible to have no masters. Many of those who think they are free from constraints are actually driven by emotions, urges, addictions.

One freedom humans do have (unless they have psychological problems caused by innate chemical imbalances) is the freedom to choose. In the end, you have to choose your master or a master will choose you.

One way to look at submission is to say, “By choosing God as my master, I am now free to act as a human in ways that promote both my growth and the growth of those I meet.”

Things that stop growing die. Growing in maturity as a human walking with God is life.

The Practice of Submission

August 6, 2012

Reading through 1 Timothy–Paul’s instructions to Timothy on how to organize a local church and what an ideal church might look like–I got stuck on the word submission.

That’s a tough word for most people–maybe especially for Americans. Our 19th century writers were all about the glorification of the individual and his freedoms.

I’ve jotted lots of thoughts as I think through this discipline. But I decided to consult Richard Foster, “Celebration of Discipline.”

He quotes Martin Luther, “A Christian is a perfectly free lord of all, subject to none. A Christian is a perfectly dutiful servant of all, subject to all.”

Foster goes on to say, “Nothing can put people into bondage like religion, and nothing in religion has done more to manipulate and destroy people than a deficient teaching on submission.”

I think I’m going to spend some time on this thought, because it is a most important concept. Foster says that the purpose of practicing a Spiritual Discipline is for the greater good. And liberation is the end.

He says that the freedom that comes with submission is the freedom from the burden of needing to get our own way.

So, I think the first step in submission is to recognize that, one way or another, we’re going to follow some person or some emotion. It’s best that we choose. Further, it’s best that we choose God. We know that the only good life comes from living a life with God.

So, what’s holding us back?

Fitness Training for Spiritual Development

August 3, 2012

Training. Interesting subject. I’ve talked to at least three parents this week who have kids going off to college. Kids are all worried about their majors. In many respects, it doesn’t matter. People start out with one major and end up in another often. Even more, they graduate and devote their lives to an entirely different field.

Paul advises Timothy, “Train yourself in godliness, for while physical training is of some value, godliness is valuable in every way, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.”

Timothy was already a church leader at a young age. No doubt, he did not have an M.Div. or other certificated entry paper. He trained under Paul. So as Paul is giving him advice on how to organize a church, he gives him also personal advice.

Note the parallel construction of training in godliness and physical training. Just as in earning that first college degree, you learn something, but then you devote your life to training. You work at it every day. You have a plan. In physical  training, you determine the muscles to develop and how to develop stamina, strength and flexibility.

Just so in your career, you learn something, but then you get a job. Then you train to develop those “muscles” in the right way to excel at your profession.

And then in spiritual matters, you also determine the spiritual muscles you need to develop and proceed to train to develop them in strength and stamina.

How to develop a spiritual training plan? Take a look at the classic Spiritual Disciplines (or Practices). Study, meditation, prayer, service, worship, celebration, and so on. Where do your muscles need work? Start to train them.

And tell your young acquaintances, you go to college to learn to learn. Then you spend your life learning.

Rest for the Soul

July 23, 2012

I was recently listening to Nancy Ortberg speak. She is a teaching pastor at Menlo Park Presbyterian Church and wife of senior pastor John Ortberg. The sermon series has been “Soul-ology”–all about the health of the soul.

They have been discussing how the soul is the sum of your being. You have a body and a mind (which the ancients, and now us moderns, see as a combination of brain and emotion) and a will. But your soul is owned by God and is all of that plus.

Nancy talked about the problem many of us have in finding rest. So many are “Type A” personalities. We worry, we plan, we crave, we act. But we can’t rest.

Her talk started me thinking. Sometimes rest comes from non-action. One benefit of meditation is to quiet the mind. There are people who confuse this with a direct spiritual benefit, but that is something more. Meditation to rest the soul is simply following a technique of sitting comfortably, focusing on breathing, clearing the mind without effort.

Type A personalities have much difficulty with this. It’s hard for them to sit still. It’s even harder for them to quiet the mind. Aside from helping the soul find rest, studies have revealed that this practice helps reduce stress, bring down blood pressure, prevent onset of Type II diabetes.

Another type of rest actually involves action. Nancy grew up hunting and fishing. She related a vacation they took to Montana to go fly fishing. That is an active vacation. The technique of fly fishing, though physically active, requires utmost concentration. Concentration of this type actually quiets the mind and allows the soul to rest.

I achieve the same state of consciousness through refereeing soccer. The more intense and higher level the game, the higher my concentration. The more the rest of my soul relaxes.

Others have hobbies of various types. Or other recreation. What do you do for your soul?

How Do I Achieve Peace

July 20, 2012

As I ended Yoga practice last night, one member of the class asked that question. I’ll always end with a motivational or thought provoking quote. Last night’s had to do with diseases of the mind being more destructive than those of the body (Cicero).

Well, I’m not a psychologist. And even though I teach Yoga, I’m not a Hindu. But I am a life-long seeker. So I shared some of the wisdom literature such as has been the topic of my last several posts. Seek contentment. Try to remove attachment to worldly things.

That wasn’t enough. So I thought about it. The trouble with wisdom tradition is that although it’s universal, it lacks grounding. First, you must have the foundation of walking with God. Historically, monotheists (Jewish, Christian, Muslim) practice a personal relationship with God rather than having a pantheon of gods or union with a mystical “Divine” that is sort of nameless.

New Age people–who are all around us–mix up a lot of that. Take a mix of a measure of Wisdom literature, a dash of Asian religions (without the “religion” part), a piece of Christian  teaching, stir well and live some sort of peaceful life. Trouble is, there is no foundation. One of Jesus’ parables warned about building your life on unstable ground rather than a firm foundation.

So, our discussion last night went back to a grounding in God. Then you turn to your mind. The ultimate freedom humans have is the freedom to choose what we think about. We can choose our response to the situations life puts us through. For more than 40 years I’ve practiced the technique of diverting my mind from worries and negativity by focusing my thoughts on something positive or pleasurable.

I was raised by a worrier, it’s in my genes and my early experience. I had to learn to overcome it. That’s how I did. Although you never are “cured.” You just live each day. With God. Choosing to set your mind on the things of heaven, not the things of the world.

Contentment or Wish I Were Somewhere Else

July 18, 2012

Ever think that someone else is “over there” having a lot of fun and you’re left out? I bet most of us had those feelings at least once during our adolescent years. I did.

Was it true? Did you ever get “over there” and discover that there really wasn’t much going on?

This reading I’ve been doing on ethical principles landed on the principle of contentment. The author cites a Chinese proverb that says, “People in the West are always getting ready to live.” The saying sounds a little suspicious to me as far as origin, but the thought is interesting.

We could be content in living the life we’re living and not so much worried about what other people are doing.

Last Friday I led a Yoga class with a group of about 20 kids ranging in age from perhaps 7 to 14. These are “disadvantaged” kids. They were all worried  about another kid. “He’s not doing it.” “She’s not paying attention.” My response–let’s just pay attention to ourselves and not worry about them.

Then I thought, what a good phrase to bring into my life. Make sure my life is right with God first. Or as Jesus said, why worry about the speck in someone else’s eye when you have a log in yours.

Maybe somewhere else the sun is shining (or in our case, since we’re in the midst of a drought, somewhere else they have rain). But I can live contented where I am with what I have. And if a new opportunity for learning, growth or service is presented to me by God, then I am prepared to take that next step.

Oh, those Yoga kids… At the end of the class, I had them sitting cross-legged on the ground. Trying to teach them to find a safe place in their imagination to go when they get upset–to calm down before acting. Imagine 20 restless kids on summer break sitting outside in the sun quiet for about 6 minutes. It was amazing.

Walk With God Leaving Excess Behind

July 17, 2012

I’m a little late today. Had a 6 am flight from Dayton to St. Louis. Having trouble with my wireless modem, so finally broke down and spent $7.95 for Internet access at the St. Louis airport.

Read a book on ethics on the flight here. Obviously not deep, but had many good thoughts.

One chapter discussed walking with God in the sense of approaching each day with holiness rather than indulgence. Interesting thought–especially for those in a western culture. We live in an economy based on consumption. Messages surround us, penetrating our souls constantly, telling us we can be happier, more attractive, more successful, more popular, smarter if only we’d buy something.

Indulge yourself the beautiful models tell us. You can’t have too much–at least until you reach the point you can qualify for one of those hoarder “reality” TV shows.

We can indulge in other ways, too. Maybe we indulge in silence when there’s a lot of life around us. Maybe we indulge in WiFi–wait, don’t hit me too close to home.

All I wanted was a quiet little spot to have some breakfast and wait for my colleague to arrive. The airport is not busy. No one else is at this nice little airport restaurant. All is well. I guess I’m indulging. Then a family comes in. With every other place open, they choose to sit at the booth behind me. Boy of around 6 is in the group, with mom and grandparents. Boy is loud and kicks the booth–same seat as mine. I feel every kick. Grandpa is a whiner. Flight was cancelled due to mechanical failure. Upset their day. He whines about the flight, about the airport, about the kid, about relatives….

Ah, but I just read this book. In the end, it’s not all about me. I can adjust and calmly do my work. Probably got more done than in the quiet of my study. Hope they have a good next flight!

Be Aware of Your Spiritual Influencers

July 9, 2012

It’s summer and vacation time. With grandkids at 3 and 5, there isn’t as much time for reading as usual. I did finish a couple of books last week. They couldn’t be more different. Ravi Zacharias, “Why Jesus?”, holds New Age spirituality up to the benchmark of Christian dogma and finds it misleading and wanting. Elaine Pagels tackles the politics and society of the early centuries of Christian thought focusing on interpretations of the “Revelation of John (of Patmos)” in “Revelations: Visions, Prophecy, and Politics in the Book of Revelation.”

Has anyone ever made a chance remark that influenced what direction your life takes from that place in time? The speaker at Willow Creek Community Church Sunday talked about a “chance” encounter with a man whom he had never met before nor seen later who set him off toward a career in the ministry. Made me think of chance remarks that people have made to me that either set me off toward something or stopped me from going that direction.

I was coaching youth soccer and was on the school board. A chance remark from the athletic director asking if I’d ever thought about becoming a referee started me on what is now a 26-year career as a soccer referee leading up to receiving a high award Saturday.

What really concerns me reading through these books is the care that must be take when someone makes remarks about theology or belief that can send you off on a wrong path. Zacharias takes on some current cultural heroes in Deepak Chopra and Oprah Winfrey. He shows how their incomplete philosophy of salvation can lead people astray. One remark from Winfrey while at the height of her power on TV could move millions of people.

I wrote recently about reading source material. Go back to the Bible for grounding. Read lots of other books and authors, but always ground it in source material to test whether they have gone off in a wrong direction.