Archive for the ‘Awareness’ Category

What’s Holding You Back?

November 14, 2024

We recently drove about 2,500 miles on various trips from Illinois to Tennessee to Ohio to Illinois to Missouri. It was the middle-to-end of October. The deciduous trees were in full color.

Golds and reds blended with some green holding on to summer painting a beautiful landscape in the hills.

People who study these things say that the colors are always there. The green from chlorophyl hides the colors while the tree’s growth stage needs the sunlight energy converted by the green.

When the green fades away giving way to a new stage of life, the vibrant colors become exposed.

And I wondered, what holds us back? What negativity, cynicism, bitterness, or even pride and ego cover our innate vibrant self?

What do we need to start shedding in order to show our true colors?

Holding On

November 6, 2024

The idea burrows through the conscious mind to the unconscious one. Sometimes we know not the source of the idea.

Ideas resonate with an emotion and stick.

Henri Nouwen wrote a little book on prayer called With Open Hands.

He thinks about how opening our hands opens us to God in prayer.

Have you ever become aware of clenched hands? You are trying to go to sleep. You realize your hands are closed into fists.

The very act of intentionally opening your hands brings immediate relaxation.

The same with our minds.

The very act of opening our minds opens our eyes to new possibilities. New ideas can bring us to a new level of awareness. 

We can leave the fixed mindsets of prejudice, opinion, bitterness, cynicism behind.

Open now to hearing Jesus’s voice calling to a better way of life.

Checkups

October 7, 2024

You see a physician maybe once or twice a year. They measure your blood pressure. They make a diagnosis based on one snapshot, perhaps prescribing their favorite medication. 

Maybe they do bloodwork once a year. They make a diagnosis based on the one snapshot.

Your blood pressure varies over the day based on many factors. Your blood analysis varies also. Maybe your last meal before the fast included something you don’t normally eat that drives up cholesterol or triglycerides.

Jesus also observed the heart. But a different kind of heart. The heart as center of emotion, faith, empathy.

Do you monitor your own heart—the one that concerned Jesus? Maybe just a snapshot checkup after a religious experience? 

Maybe we need something for the heart like a continuous glucose monitor where we can check in several times a day to see where we’re OK and where we’re slipping.

Hypocrites

September 20, 2024

Jesus called the religious leaders of his day hypocrites.

They put on masks and played a role.

Behind the mask lay a different reality.

Greed. Lust for power. Pride.

The same exist today.

When the role we play approximates the status of our hearts,

then we move from hypocrisy to maturity.

If we but observe closely, we can know

whether that Christian wears a mask or presents a heart.

More important, what role are we playing?

Ego

September 19, 2024

Too much ego and we become obnoxious.

Too little and we are weak.

Too much leads to pride—and downfall.

Too little and we have not the strength to survive whole.

Sometimes we need someone to bring us down a notch or two.

Sometimes a little boost brings a momentary boost of energy to the day.

(Thoughts after the young woman at the conference registration desk sized me up for a conference shirt—Medium? I usually wear large. Thank you. Turns out the medium fit. I have lost weight. Then later at the same conference talking with another woman I know about my grandson’s looking into schools. Oh, tell me again, where does your son go to school? Thank you…grandson. Some days you just need that.)

Vigilance

September 18, 2024

Vigilance

Beyond focus, it’s a careful watch for possible danger.

But also, it’s a careful watch for movement of the Spirit.

Sustained concentration, although that is impossible for humans.

Vigilance implies alertness, staying awake, not losing attention amidst the endless stream of thoughts.

Vigilance requires mindfulness.

My Voice or His

August 26, 2024

We surely have all met people along our journeys who tell us that they have heard the voice of God. Then they proceed to do or say something bizarre. 

Paul wrote to the gathering of followers in Rome, “It is that very Spirit bearing witness with our spirit that we are Children of God.” Romans 8:16

John Wesley pondered that thought and wrote, “How many have mistaken the voice of their own imagination for this witness of the Spirit of God, and thence idly presumed they were the children of God while they were doing the works of the Devil!” 

This resembles the question, “How do you know that you are not self-aware?”

How do you know that it simply your own imagination, your own cognitive biases rather than the Spirit talking to you?

For me, the answer to the first question came from an incident where I suddenly saw myself as others saw me. Sometimes it takes an intervention by friends or a statement by a speaker where we suddenly have our eyes opened.

The second answer may have been provoked by a similar incident. We could also test our ideas with Scripture and/or respected spiritual writers. Conversations with mentors or professionals could guide us if we have strayed from the path.

Becoming aware of straying onto a false path or of deluding ourselves constitutes our life’s work.

Those Who Are Centered Upon Themselves

August 23, 2024

Narcissism is the shame-based fear of being ordinary.—Brené Brown.

We commonly toss the word narcissism to label those who seem annoyingly self centered. Usually we are describing someone we tire of easily due to their one-sided conversations.

There is a disorder listed in the psychologist’s diagnostic manual. Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a personality disorder characterized by a life-long pattern of exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration, and a diminished ability to empathize with other people’s feelings.

If you have met someone with the disorder and especially if you must work with this person, my suggestion is to run. Remove yourself from the situation.

Short of disorder, though, we should all reflect upon our own behaviors. How much do we wish to not appear ordinary such that our conversations tend to focus not only on ourselves but especially upon our exploits that make us appear extraordinary?

If as a follower of Jesus we incorporate his teachings into our lives to first love God and then also love those around us (our neighbor), then we are focusing our thoughts and lives on others. Sort of the opposite of common narcissism. 

Perhaps in being ordinary followers, we actually wind up being extraordinary as a byproduct!

Emotional Transitions

August 15, 2024

The transition from tenseness, self-responsibility, and worry to equanimity, receptivity, and peace is the most wonderful of all those shiftings of inner equilibrium, those changes of personal center of energy. -William James, 1902

Matthew wrote in his story of Jesus that the ministry began with Jesus inviting people to repent. This was also the message of his predecessor, John (the Baptizer).

This observation from William James captures something of that joy and release of energy that comes from changing our life perspective. Something called repentance.

When Heat and Humidity Build

August 7, 2024

Hot town, summer in the city, back of my neck feeling dirty and gritty–The Lovin’ Spoonful.

Summer arrives at its peak months. Heat builds to a consistent 90 F (32 C). Humidity, liking consistency, matches the 90 with 90%.

The atmosphere reaches the point of too much pressure. It cannot live with such conditions.

Lightning dangerously connects heaven and earth. Thunder jars startled ears. Rain violently strikes everything in the open.

Then it’s over. The air is cool and clear.

Just so with us. The pressure of annoyances, insecurities, fears fills our viscera reaching the mind. We explode venomous words to whomever happens to be near.

Unlike nature, this seldom clears the air. This storm damages what it touches.

Better for us humans is the self awareness of feeling the pressures beginning and dealing with them with intention.

Deep breath. A walk in nature alone. Baroque music.

Finding a gentle release saving relationships and mental health. Restoring the soul.