Archive for the ‘Attitude’ Category

Leadership

July 17, 2024

There are leaders with vision who inspire people to do great things.

There are leaders filled with insecurities who create atmospheres of divisiveness, playing competing groups against each other.

Some follow the visionary leader and do great things.

Some follow the insecure leader burrowing into their group spreading divisiveness.

Remember the religious, business, political leaders of the first type. They are too few.

Think of the the religious, business, political leaders of the second. They are too many.

If you are a leader of any group, please be the first. It’s hard, but valuable. Like a diamond.

Two Kinds of Christians

July 16, 2024

I’ve experienced two types of Christians.

Judgement

The picture that immediately comes to mind is the preacher who comes to No Name City in the play/movie Paint Your Wagon. Dressed in black, aggressive attitude, crazed look in his eyes. But that is a caricature.

Most judge like “death by a thousand paper cuts.” A critical comment tossed out here. A Facebook post hurriedly typed there. A focus on sins, foibles, failures—of others.

Grace

The popular song Amazing Grace describes the grace that can come to an individual. However Mother Teresa’s image popped quickly to mind. She symbolizes not my grace but the grace shared outward to others.

Grace shared outward can be a large focus of an entire life. It also lives in every small act of kindness toward humans and even animals. That’s because it emanates from who you are, from deep within the heart.

Bible Based

July 8, 2024

Our church is Bible-based.

No, not yours, our church is Bible-based.

I wonder what the code is built into those statements.

All “Christian” theologies are based on the Bible in one way or another—even the wacky ones.

Maybe it all fulfills a human need—much like heavy metal rock. Us versus Them.

But where is “seek ye first the Kingdom of God and all these things will be added unto you”?

Debate to Win?

July 3, 2024

Have you ever gotten involved in an argument? Did it go anywhere? Have you ever argued with someone who believed something different from you? Did you convince them that they were wrong?

I saw this thought on Rich Dixon’s Rich’s Ride blog, “Nobody’s ever been debated into an intimate relationship with Jesus.”

Want to know what works better?

Listening. Empathy. Curiosity about the other.

The Right Attitude For Reading Spiritual Writing

June 27, 2024

The Desert Fathers were weird in many ways. Especially to our modern, materialistic minds. Most of us have never met a recluse seeking spiritual insight.

So many of us are partially university trained into an excess of criticality.

I picked up this thought in my reading this week:

“If we wish to understand the sayings of the Fathers, let us approach them with veneration, silencing our judgments and our own thoughts in order to meet them on their own ground and perhaps to partake ultimately—if we prove able to emulate their earnestness in the search, their ruthless determination, their infinite compassion—in their own silent communion with God.”

Yes, we can rush so quickly to judgement without first checking our attitudes at the door. We pick up the books with open hands and open hearts to let some drop of wisdom touch the tongue of our mind.

An understanding of the thoughts can come later.

Calm Is Contagious

June 25, 2024

Calm is Contagious

So is Fear.

Which do you choose?

Make It Work

June 21, 2024

We recently vacationed in Québec City. Our tour guide on a walking tour explained the history of the city from the coming of the first French explorers to politics in the 1960s and again in the 1980s. You may recall that the country held two referendums in Quebec to find the sentiment of the people toward staying in Canada.

The first vote was not close, but a second vote a decade later tallied almost a 50/50 split. This told the rest of Canada that something must be done.

Politicians worked out a compromise making Quebec sort of a “nation within a nation.” It does not have embassies or passports, but it does have some special prerogatives within the nation.

The guide had two phrases. The first was, “it means nothing.” The notion of the “nation within a nation” isn’t exactly true. But his second phrase is something that could be used within American (and many other countries) politics, as well as within the general Christian movement in the world—We make it work.

In so many areas of life stubbornness, tempers, lack of empathy, closed minds get in the way of working things out.

We should also be able to say, “We make it work.”

Good Feel For People

May 22, 2024

The human resources department of one large company I worked for traveled to the various manufacturing sites leading management seminars. I can still remember one where they put up one of those consultant’s 2×2 matrices. They compared “feel for people” versus “intellectual control of emotions.” Good and Poor. Of course, the top right box was good in each category. 

That is something for which we can strive as leaders of organizations whether non-profit, or profit, or church, or wherever 3 or more are gathered for a task.

I thought of this when I read Axios (one of my two favorite news sources) Finish Line newsletter about the private equity firm KKR. If you don’t know KKR, think the Richard Gere character in Pretty Woman.

The big picture: KKR operates what it calls “Centers of Excellence,” including one focused on human capital. One of its goals is to learn how to identify great leaders, whether current CEOs or future CEOs, for the sake of driving outsized returns. The focus is more on psychological traits than on résumés. Behind the scenes: KKR has discovered that having a genuine sense of empathy might be the key identifier, according to Pete Stavros, KKR’s co-head of global private equity. For example, does the person exhibit a sense of responsibility not only for shareholders and top executives, but also for the most junior of employees? In other words, a North Star of: “My people, my problem.” Other signals could include a company’s safety record or employee engagement scores. The bottom line: This might sound squishy, particularly to spreadsheet obsessives. But private equity might be one of the last industries to recognize the importance of corporate culture — and how that culture can beget capital.

A follower of Jesus should pick this up from his way of life. When he did get angry, it had a purpose. And he certainly had empathy for all except people who put on false masks.

Pursuit of Wealth or Living a Real Life

May 17, 2024

Nassim Nicholas Taleb—The fact that people in countries with cold weather tend to be harder working, richer, less relaxed, less amicable, less tolerant of idleness, more (over) organized and more harried than those in hotter climates should make us wonder whether wealth is mere indemnification, and motivation is just overcompensation for not having a real life.

Jesus—…but the worries of this life, the deceitfulness of wealth and the desires for other things come in and choke the word, making it unfruitful.

The pursuit of wealth or worrying about wealth of which we may not have enough puts us on an endless treadmill running to nowhere.

It is not too late no matter the season to “have a real life” or to be “fruitful.”

  • Pause and breathe
  • Take slow walks
  • Be kind
  • Practice generosity
  • Serve others graciously
  • Teach someone life skills

Virtue

May 16, 2024

I’ve been thinking on a concept almost unheard of today—virtue.

Virtue is what I do when no one is looking.

Virtue is when the income number I show the tax collector is greater than the income number I would show my neighbor.

Virtue is when I follow through on what I say I will do.

Virtue is when I am kind to someone for no apparent reason.

Virtue is when I help someone who cannot repay.

Virtue is when I shine the light on someone else rather than hogging the spotlight.