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Time–Do We Have Enough?

June 27, 2023

Time. We just don’t have enough of it.

Or, do we.

Perhaps what we lack is focus. Decide on something to work on, work on it.

Perhaps we say Yes too often and need to practice the word No. Or, Sorry, I cannot fit it into my schedule.

On the other hand, perhaps we structure too many things into a day. We have not built in slack time. We have not set aside time to just sit (or walk) and think and relax.

We must set aside eight hours for sleep. We should set aside three hours for eating. Eating slowly helps us consume less and keep our weight down.

That leaves us with 13 hours for work, play, rest, connection. It should be plenty.

Perfection and Imperfection

June 26, 2023

Perfect is the enemy of good.

Perfect is the enemy of done.

Once when I was a vice president of a small company, the engineers had a conversation with me. It involved when to ship a machine we were building. Now, if we didn’t ship, we didn’t get paid. But they didn’t want to ship until the machine was perfect. It was hard to explain to someone with a perfect mindset that the customer couldn’t wait for perfection. They needed a machine that would make the products they needed within the specs. Good was good enough. Perfect was not attainable.

In the spiritual life, we must ask of ourselves–are we waiting for perfection?

Worse, do we now think that we are perfect and have no need for anything further from God?

Have you met Christians (or perhaps people from other religions) who think they are perfect? Did we notice the imperfections that they ignored?

Perfect we may strive toward as long as we don’t develop a psychological disorder such as anxiety or depression.

Imperfect is the human condition. When we accept that in ourselves and in others, then, and only then, can we grow in faith and service.

Smooth Is Fast

June 23, 2023

I heard an interview with a former US Navy SEAL. He left me with a phrase that repeats in my mind.

Slow is smooth; smooth is fast.

This relates to other advice I’ve received and to my life experiences.

Once I rushed through everything trying to do three or four things at once. I was frustrated with progress as well as tired. Driving in traffic, I’d speed up only to be stopped at the next traffic light in the slow lane passed by the cars I’d just passed.

Rushing didn’t get me anywhere faster. Maybe just a speeding ticket.

I’ve not only learned that phrase, I have also learned to embody it.

I concentrate on one thing at a time. That doesn’t mean that a hundred thoughts don’t pop up. They do. But I’ve learned to move past and come back to task.

Don’t rush the conversation.

Allow time to get where I’m going. If circumstances make me late, well, then I’m late. That’s life.

Even eating. Chew more. Swallow less. Slow and smooth.

Even working out. Some things require intensity, but don’t rush through (well, unless you’re doing sprints!). I look at the dumbbells. Select the weights. Raise slowly to extension. Lower slowly and smoothly. Do my sets. Amazingly the workout is done before I know it.

In your spiritual life, it’s the same. When you read–read. When you meditate–meditate. Allow the time. Savor it even.

Are You Doing Significant Work?

June 22, 2023

Or…are you merely busy?

Seth Godin has released a new book I highly recommend…The Song of Significance: A New Manifesto for Teams.

We are all doing some sort of work. It might be in the marketplace, or an organization non-profit or religious. 

What we should be doing is creating significance for someone else. Whom are we serving?

Or, are we merely busy?

Are you merely a manager who orders the group, team, organization into compliance to run as smoothly as possible?

Are you a leader bringing significance to a team of committed and passionate individuals creating change and changed lives to others?

If you work for the first, perhaps you should quit and find the second sort of team.

Taking Criticism

June 21, 2023

OK, I’ll admit it. I don’t take criticism well. It’s from a deep sense that I’ll never be good enough. (Thanks, Dad.) 

Something you should know about delivering criticism. If you begin with something positive or almost positive and then say, “but”, everything ahead of “but” is forgotten. 

I found this piece of advice from the Stoic Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius (from The Daily Stoic newsletter).

If that criticism is correct and we are in error then the person criticizing us has done us a favor by correcting it. If they are wrong, what do we care? More likely, if we are doing our job right, we should already be well aware of the issue that people are raising and already be fixing it. We should have no sense of ourselves as perfect or above critique. Nor should we be so fragile and vulnerable as to not be able to bear being disliked or disagreed with.

What a mature approach. Something to learn from and practice. We can, if we but open our minds, learn from those who differ from us and those who offer criticism—even the unkind ones.

Meditation Spaces

June 20, 2023

I am on the road at another conference. Last week we were in the desert in Las Vegas. This week in the sub-tropics of Orlando, FL. No, I’m not doing Disney. Learning about new technologies and their uses. Big topic is sustainability.

When I’m in a hotel, I search for outdoor locations in the morning to begin my day refreshed. Meditation in an environment like this patio at the JW Marriott allows me to bring more energy to a day filled with interviews and other human interaction.

When I’m home, it’s a walk around the ponds in the community. I’ve even just walked the city when I happen to be downtown Chicago or wherever. Just being out is a great way to begin the day. It’s also a great way to rejuvenate in the mid-afternoon.

It is permissible (I give you permission) to meditate with your eyes open. That is a refreshing alternative that also allows your mind to associate freely and come up with new ideas.

Laws and Commandments

June 19, 2023

There are people who try to make a rule to proscribe every possible way to live a life. Moses came down from Mt. Sinai with not only the 10 Commandments but a total of 613 laws. Many of those made a lot of sense to a huge group of recent slaves now loose and on their own in the desert. Raising pigs would have destroyed their way of life. Eating shellfish would have killed them.

First Century Jewish teachers added many more rules trying to keep up with changing times. Jesus often talked about the burdens the Pharisees were laying o the people with all these additional laws.

Then Jesus came. During his final instructions to his followers, he said that he would leave them with one new commandment. Not 614, but 1. Love one another as I have loved you. Do this and people will know you are my followers.

The Apostle Paul explained this in his letter to the Galatians calling it freedom from the law. (He explained it in many other places, too.)

We humans try to make it hard by over-thinking. It’s a simple concept just hard to live:

Love one another as Jesus loved his followers (and us). The extension of the love was giving up his life for them (us).

Traveling

June 16, 2023

Traveling.

Yesterday was another travel day. Two-and-a-half days of software conferences. A delicious anniversary dinner Monday. More good food during the week. Four-hour flight Las Vegas to Chicago. But that means about seven hours of total travel and wait time hotel to home.

Both flights to and from were packed. People queued up orderly. Boarded. Got settled. I never heard a discourteous word. People helped anyone struggling to stow baggage. Perhaps we’ve recovered as a society from the unsettled nerves and frustrations of the Covid pandemic. Maybe that will rub off into other areas.

How good it is to travel and be emotionally drained by witnessing belligerent and obnoxious incidents.

Maybe it’s a discipline. Maybe it’s a lifestyle. Maybe it should just be who we are. Courteous, agreeable, helpful.

Have We Lost The Ability to Give Grace?

June 14, 2023

Social media makes it so easy to point out faults—of other people. You get mad and call other people liars or cheats or heathen.

Grace.

At various periods of Western history this was an acceptable female name.

More than a name, grace is an attitude. More than an attitude, it is a way of life.

Jesus was approached by a mob demanding to throw stones on a woman to kill her for adultery. An often asked question is, where was the man, since it takes two (as that old Motown song had it). Jesus may have recognized that in his response. Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

That may be the beginning of grace. Realizing that I am not perfect and perhaps could use some grace from God myself. Further, I can give grace by refraining from words and actions that cause harm to another human being.

Paul, the Apostle, tries to explain grace in lots of words in his letters to the Galatians and the Romans, for example.

Jesus’ simple, yet profound, story explains better. No one is perfect. Why demand perfection of another? It’s all about grace. Getting it. Giving it.

A Few Simple Guides to Health

June 13, 2023

Yesterday was a travel day. I never had a chance to sit and think and type. I’ve long since given up trying to use a laptop in an airplane seat. Checked into the hotel and went to my first sessions at the software conference I’m attending.

Meanwhile, I finished a book on nutrition and overall health. You Can’t Screw This Up, by Adam Bornstein. Subtitle: Why Eating Takeout, Enjoying Dessert, and Taking the Stress Out of Dieting Leads to Weight Loss That Lasts.

I recommend the book. 

Bornstein offers guides to eating, but I think most apply to spiritual health as well as physical health.

1. Stay Nourished

2. Remain Sane

3. Avoid Guilt

These reminded me of Michael Pollen’s rules for eating:

Eat food (meaning real food, not ultra-processed)

Not too much

Mostly plants

Later, Bornstein offers these thoughts:

1. Stop trying to be perfect

2. Eat more satisfying foods

3. Eat fewer hunger-increasing foods (snack junk food)

4. Include foods you love

Try the ideas of not heaping guilt upon yourself, especially for not being perfect, which we’re not.