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A Failure To Communicate

February 19, 2025

I vaguely remember a TV show from long ago where the main character’s line went, “What we have here is a failure to communicate.”

We think we said something witty or worthwhile or wise. We think we have communicated.

What in fact was communicated was what was heard.

Even in a brief cursory encounter a quip or witty saying can have unintended impact on the other. These sometimes cause hurt and lasting relationship damage.

Of course, some people intend to hurt. Avoid those people. They harbor deep issues.

Often the best response is to ask in a manner decidedly unlike a defense attorney cross-examining a witness, “I’m not sure I heard what you mean. Did you mean…?”

That is not exactly closing the loop. It’s an invitation to take the loop up a level, sort of like an upward spiral. Exploring meaning. Deepening the conversation.

Then communication occurs.

What To Leave Undone

February 18, 2025

“Besides the noble art of getting things done, master the noble art of leaving other things undone. Life wisdom also involves the elimination of nonessentials.” -Lin Yutang (early 20th Century Chinese philosopher)

Think of obsessive people you know who are trying to get too many things done, while accomplishing little of note and antagonizing others along the way.

Then look into the metaphorical mirror. Perhaps you can say with the cartoon character Garfield, “I resemble that remark.”

Author and podcast host Tim Ferriss recently revived work on a book on the power to say no.

Wisdom from ancient times tells us that only an empty container is useful. If you are filled with many tasks, many worries, many places to go, then you have no room for being and for doing the important work.

If this post seems a rerun of something I wrote a few days ago, perhaps God places certain reading in my awareness to send a message. I pay attention when similar thoughts appear within a short time period. Gotta be a message there.

Two Important Thoughts On The Insurance System

February 17, 2025

I’m taking a break from the regularly scheduled content for these important announcements!

Many years ago, my health insurance would not pay for a routine annual physical checkup. I thought that was just about the stupidest thing imaginable. Long a student (and practitioner) of fitness, wellness, and health, I viewed prevention and early detection as essential ingredients of what is now called a healthspan.

Then two emails came my way in a span of 12 hours on this topic and more. Please read these and spread the word. Our Congresspeople appear to be pretty powerless right now. Maybe some will have the courage to take up the battle. Maybe if enough of us continue to raise the alarm, some changes will happen.

And we do need change.

The Peter Diamandis newsletter came yesterday. I appreciate what he has to say even when I sometimes find him a little over the top optimistic or disagree with him.

He begins the newsletter with a story and a point:

On January 7th at 11:30am, I looked out my home-office window to see black plumes of smoke billowing over a nearby hill. My first thought: What the hell is going on?

That was the beginning of a 5-week forced evacuation from our Santa Monica home, on the boarder of Pacific Palisades.

I’m writing this from a friend’s home, where we’ve taken refuge. We’re among the lucky ones – our house is still standing. But more than 18,000 homes have been destroyed, and 200,000 Angelenos have been displaced. The devastation is estimated between $100 billion to $200 billion, and honestly, I think that’s a low-ball estimate.

But here’s what really pisses me off: This was preventable. ALL of it.

This is happening because we’re stuck with systems and institutions that are centuries old and business models that are sub-linear and fundamentally broken.

Take the insurance industry, it’s perverse and inappropriately incentivized.

Read the entire essay with his proposed solutions.

No sooner did I finish this essay when a similar one came from Seth Godin.

Godin provides a list of problems with the healthcare system. He concludes:

And so, a system that’s organized around treatments and status, that misallocates time and effort, causing stress for practitioners and patients. Historical bias in training leaves more than half of the population underserved and unseen, and, as a result, stress is high, many people don’t get the right treatment or hesitate to get any treatment at all, and costs continue to rise.

Systems change is difficult, because persistent systems are good at sticking around. They create cultural barriers that make their practices appear normal, and there are functional barriers as well.

When a change agent (often an external technology or event) arrives, the system must respond, often leading to change. All around us, we see systems changing, and often, that change agent is the smart phone. 91% of adults in the US have a smartphone, and it’s even higher among people under 65.

He then postulates a smartphone app:

The ubiquity of the connected supercomputer in our pockets has overhauled the taxi industry, the hotel business, restaurants and most of all, pop culture. But it hasn’t transformed the healthcare system. Add AI to the mix, and it’s possible that change is about to happen.

Imagine an app.

He continues with a list of possibilities. I’m not going to reproduce them. Visit his blog page. It’s thoughtful.

His conclusion.

The biggest information shift here is the more accurate collection and correlation of symptoms and treatments. The secondary (but ultimately longer-term) shift is finding threads of common interest and comparing doctors in their responses to symptoms. (And the side effect of giving patients agency and the solace that comes from insight can’t be ignored). Because both of these data shifts will lead to better patient outcomes (usually at much lower cost, with less trauma) the healthcare professionals who signed up for precisely this outcome will also thrive.

It’s not a panacea. But shifting information flows, improving peace of mind and the quality and timing of diagnosis are problems we can work to solve.

Putting It All Together

February 17, 2025

I close my eyes for meditation. In the gray mist of sight behind closed lids, I see outlines of jigsaw puzzle pieces fitting together.

I close my eyes preparing for sleep. Yes, I see arrays of jigsaw puzzle pieces.

My wife and I have had a project for the past couple of weeks assembling a jigsaw puzzle. The exercise requires focus, observation, patience, mental clarity. This puzzle did not come with a photo showing the completed puzzle. It came with a short murder mystery story describing a scene. You are to figure out the scene and then conclude where the body is hidden, who did it, and how.

We finished it last night. I took a commemorative photo. It will rest on our table for a while until we take it apart and put it away.

There are many puzzles I’ve experienced.

Two colleagues and I joined to form a new magazine. We hashed out ideas, sometimes with considerable passion. The pieces came together. We built a top-rated magazine for the market we served.

Like many people, I puzzled over Paul’s letter to the Roman followers. Some theologians wrote huge works trying to tease out subtle meanings from each Greek word. Luther, Calvin, Wesley all saw pieces of the letter and built theologies. 

I added some other study and thinking and the pieces fell into place. Don’t try to build grandiose theories. This letter is the ultimate spiritual development tract in the New Testament. Paul leads the reader from a state of being lost to a state of being in the state of God’s grace. Not stopping there, he continues with ideas on how we live in the state of grace.

I have been part of a team led by my wife for the better part of a year. Called Rise Above, the ministry hopes to reach out to people suffering from emotional hurt and support them on the return journey to wholeness. At our last meeting, the pieces came together. Just like after the pieces came together forming the magazine, I realized that now I had to get an actual magazine produced and into the mail. Now, we have to actually meet with those people.

When the jigsaw puzzle is done, it’s done. When we assemble the pieces of our project, that’s just the beginning.

Valentine’s Day

February 14, 2025

February 14. A day set aside in many countries for couples to express their love—usually taken to mean romantic love.

It began, as many of our holidays, as an early Christian feast day for a Saint Valentine (it seems there was more than one of those in ancient times). 

A chocolatier in 1868 brilliantly conceived packaging chocolates in a red, heart-shaped box.

Love takes many forms. Most of us really don’t need a 2-lb. box of chocolate candy while we deal with our health.

But it might be a good day to acknowledge someone special.

Choose Not Doing In Order To Do Better

February 13, 2025

Did you know that you can choose what media fills your attention? And affects your emotional state?

Arthur Schopenhauer wrote philosophy mainly in the early 19th Century. I’ve found much of his writing a chore to parse. This thought gets right to the point, “The art of not reading is a very important one. It consists in not taking an interest in whatever may be engaging the attention of the general public at any particular time. When some political or ecclesiastical pamphlet, or novel, or poem is making a great commotion, you should remember that he who writes for fools always finds a large public. A precondition for reading good books is not reading bad ones: for life is short.”

Compare this observation of the 1820s to our plight today where thousands of very smart engineers and managers work extraordinary hours to capture our attention with emotion-laden messages. We choose an application on the internet. Something served to us by the anonymous “algorithm” provokes an emotional response. We read more becoming increasingly incensed as we read.

Finally breaking away, we struggle to concentrate on family, work, study, even relaxation.

Remember our first premise?

It was your choice.

The old Crusader told Indiana Jones (Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade) regarding the villain, “He chose poorly” as he died a hideous death. Then, “Choose wisely.”

Mentors and Coaches

February 12, 2025

I am thinking about mentors and coaches today. News just arrived that one of my mentors had passed away over the weekend.

I had few mentors. Some of them I didn’t realize until later. There are a few who could have been if I had only known how to ask.

That asking is a key element. I failed to ask so many times. Not because I thought I knew it all. Mostly because I hate to bother people. Some because I just couldn’t formulate the right questions.

I have mentored a few people in my journey. Sometimes I didn’t realize it—it wasn’t intentional to any certain individual. I was just being helpful.

I was able to visit one of my mentors before he died. And another I sent a note being a considerable distance away. I hope he got it.

Think of people who have helped you along the way. Send a note (hand written is best) or make a call to those still with us.

If you see someone who could use some help, ask if you can answer a question. If you need some help, don’t be afraid to ask. I didn’t ask. And I have lived to regret it.

Imagination and Inspiration

February 11, 2025

Some psychologists and philosophers have theorized that inspirations or visions during meditation are simply figments of our imagination.

While meditating the other day with an app (The Way by Henry Shukman, something I seldom do), this realization came to me:

You force imagination with intention; Inspiration visits you.

Letting imagination run free both liberates and enhances creativity.

Inspiration emanates from a synthesis of experiences and curiosity and thinking yielding the famous Ah Ha moment.

I love when those happen. I even step out from meditation in order to write them in my commonplace journal.

This keeps my brain from atrophying. 

Who Is Our Neighbor?

February 10, 2025

It seemed so simple. The local politicians/theologians asked Jesus for the most important commandment. They knew the answer. Jesus supplied it—you shall love the Lord your God.

But he was not finished. There was a second commandment equal to the first. They were companions. You couldn’t really do one without the other.

You shall love your neighbor.

Maybe there is an out, here, the politicians thought. So they asked a question assuming they knew the answer. Who is our neighbor?

They thought, we can draw a circle. There would be people like us inside the circle, and people like them outside the circle.

Who is our neighbor?

Jesus told a story. It is famous today even among people who have no thought of actually following Jesus. Even today knowing the end of the story, there are people who think they know the answer.

The story goes that someone was desperately in need of a good neighbor. Jesus picked his characters with great intention. Two people that his questioners thought would be in the circle were not so neighborly in the story.

Which character in the story was a neighbor? Jesus picked a person from the most despised social group he could find—a Samaritan.

Jesus blasted all the circles away. There are no circles around groups inside our neighborhood and outside our neighborhood. Even the despised are our neighbors. 

Let us consider—who is the despised outcast of today that Jesus would pick as the hero of his story?

Ironically, followers of Jesus were the despised outcasts in the Roman world for centuries. The movement grew because those despised followers of Jesus acted like the Samaritan—binding the wounds caused by upheavals such as the Antonine Plague of 165-66. People said, “I want what they have.”

The question for us today, right this minute, where do we fit in the story? Are we the religious people who were not neighbors? Do we identify with the Samaritan who was?

Answering this honestly can change your life—for the better.

Start Perfect, Then Improve

February 7, 2025

We began entry level soccer referee classes with the joke, unfortunately true, that you will be expected to be perfect your first time on the pitch…and then improve.

What are some other examples?

Your company gets a new CEO.

You begin to study New Testament Greek.

Your church gets a new pastor.

You teach a class for the first time.

You get married.

You have kids. (Both the kids and you as parent)

You begin a meditation practice.

You take up golf.

You start a business.

You write your first book.

Or, maybe we recognize we and others are not perfect, just trying to get better every day.