Posts Tagged ‘divisions’

Banish Divisive People

May 31, 2016

When Dave and Jane and I gathered in a conference room in 2003 to start a new magazine, discussion was, well, boisterous. Loud. Argumentative. Collegial.

We came out after about a month with an editorial focus, a description of readers, a description of companies who would advertise (and why), an editorial calendar, a business plan, a media kit (all the products we could sell to advertisers).

The most dangerous next step was hiring. Bringing in people who had agendas, histories, insecurities could be disaster. We had a core team of 6-7 who stayed together eight years. We built a winning magazine and a good business. Then some new people came along and all the chemistry changed.

We were lucky in many respects. We had a couple of strong personalities who could be divisive in another situation, but they were managed.

Have you ever been in an organization with someone who is just plain divisive? They have an agenda. They are always engaged in hallway conversations trying to build alliances against someone in authority.

Churches are full of this personality type. Businesses, too. I’ve seen it. It’s ugly. I’ve even been the target. Never saw that one coming.

Henry Cloud devotes many pages to the problem in The Power of the Other. He looks at the master organization builder, Paul the Apostle.

Paul says when you see one of those divisive people, recognize it, give them a warning, and, if they don’t change their ways, banish them

Cloud says he’s seen it in organizations. The CEO recognizes the situation and terminates the culprit. Overnight the atmosphere changes. People who had been enemies become friendly. “Gosh, you’re a pretty good guy. I don’t know why I didn’t like you.”

The answer to that is the recently departed divider.

Recognize the signs of a divisive person. Find them, and deal with them. The sooner the better. Rip that cancer out of the organization. Everyone will feel–and perform–better.

Why Are There So Many Different Christians

January 14, 2015

I have a friend who was born overseas and was raised as, and still is, a Sikh. I will not try in a couple of hundred words to describe what a Sikh believes, but in crude shorthand, it teaches a certain tolerance of all religions.

My point is not to critique the faith or the people within that faith. My point is a question he asked me once. This was at another of those times of bickering amongst the various Christian denominations.

“Gary, can you explain why there are so many kinds of Christians?” he asked. “And why are they so different and dislike each other so much?”

I took a few minutes to describe 2,000 years of religious revelation, geo-political differences, politics within the religions, and personalities.

He replied, “Didn’t Jesus say that you’d know his followers by their love for one another?”

Ouch.

The denomination I attend presently is always on the brink of disintegration over the status of homosexuals. The problem with the status of women was finally settled by acknowledging women as people (duh!).

We could look at the world and point fingers. There are many varieties of Judaism. Not to mention the huge differences within Islam (reminder, not all Muslims are terrorists, just as not all Christians are terrorists–and we’ve had a few).

Many differences are simply either cultural or personality. Some are charismatic; some meditative. Some like pipe organs; some like rock ‘n’ roll.

But the Acts 2 churches attracted people by how they lived. There was something different about those people, and other people wanted some of that.

Today? How are we known? Let’s find a little of that love.