Confession Begins With Awareness

June 18, 2025

We recently visited Williamsburg, Virginia. One museum displayed a history of “ducking.” It seems that Colonial people (men? Other women?) frowned upon people (women?) who degraded people’s reputations through gossip.

One group of guys decided to take action. They rigged a chair at the end of a long pole with a strategically placed fulcrum. (They knew their elementary high school physics, I guess.) There was a woman who was a notorious gossip. They strapped her in the chair. They would then “duck” her into the pond. Wait a bit. Then lift her out. “Do you confess to your sins?” No answer. Duck her again. The story goes that after a few ducks, she confessed, pleaded mercy, and swore to never again gossip.

Forced confession has a long history. Salem witch trials. Stalinist Soviet Union. McCarthy anti-communism trials in the US Congress. The Grand Inquisition of the Middle Ages.

But…

I’d like to take the concept of confession into a different direction. One that I believe the authors of New Testament letters would approve if they lived in our time.

The purpose of “confession” is to result in “repentance.”

Let’s parse these words into modern American.

To confess is to tell my story of where I’ve been and where I am, and perhaps also, where I’d like to be. First comes awareness. I’ve come into a realization that where I am is not a good place.

The New Testament writer (and brother of Jesus) James, tells us to confess our sins to others, but he also tells the others to pray for that person (not to “duck” them). The desired result is healing. 

Or how we might define the word repentance as changing the direction of our life.

Forced confession is simply a power game. Something that Jesus expressly opposed.

True confession is generated from within. We become aware that how we are living is destructive—to our health, to our relationships, to others broadly, perhaps even to the community or broader. We seek the help of others who will walk with us to help change our direction. It’s a process—one that requires helpers.

Do you need to confess something? How is your story?

Or, do you need to help someone along their journey?

Slow Down, You Move Too Fast

June 17, 2025

You’ve got to make the morning last.—Paul Simon

Or, if that’s too mellow, try the opposite:

I Can’t Drive 55—Sammy Hagar

I live in a 55+ community. You’d think that retired people have nowhere to go in a rush. But, if you saw where few stop at stop signs and most are far over the 25 mph speed limit, you’d think it was a 25- community where all the young people are in a hurry.

It took me years to learn to pace myself. The 5 minutes that I “saved” by driving too fast really didn’t matter. The frustrations of doing 3 or 4 things simultaneously resulted in shoddy, partially thought-out work.

Just kicking down the cobblestones

Looking for fun and feelin’ groovy

Wanna be like Jesus?

June 16, 2025

Background:

  • Thoroughly Jewish—kept apart from others
  • Definitely went to Rabbi School (his rabbi credentials are never questioned)

Yet

  • Talked alone with a  Samaritan woman
  • Touched people with skin disease
  • Protected a woman from being stoned to death
  • Healed a  Roman servant
  • Healed a royal official’s child
  • Told stories that made a hated outcast the hero, and had a father running in an undignified manner toward his wayward son

For a Jewish Rabbi, Jesus was astonishingly open to everyone.

What’s my excuse for being closed into my group? What’s your excuse?

Be Like a Monk

June 13, 2025

Someone told me that it is a sign of creativity to take ideas from outside your area and apply them to what you are working on. I will take that as a good thing.

My father took me to percussion lessons at about age 8. I played in school bands from junior high through high school to university. Along the way, I picked up a little experience with saxophone and trombone. But I picked up a guitar during my second year of university and have played it off-and-on ever since. Moving and Covid caused a break in the action.

I recently picked up an online guitar teacher called Klaus Crowe. He just posted a cool little essay regarding guitar practice called How To Be A Guitar Monk.

This is really cool. Let us try substituting our spiritual practices in place of the noun, “guitar.” Maybe prayer or meditation or study. Maybe even service. I’m posting some of the original. Make your own substitution for whatever spiritual practice (or guitar, for that matter) you need to work on.

“One guitar. One focus. One day at a time.”

1. Create a Sacred Practice Space

Designate a quiet, clean, distraction free place for your guitar. It doesn’t have to be fancy, just intentional. When you enter this space, you only play guitar. No phone, doom-scrolling or multitasking.

2. Set a Ritual Practice Time

Consistency is king. Choose the same time every day to practice, even if it’s just 15 minutes. Mornings are best for many, but anytime works as long as you’re consistent.

3. Focus on Fundamentals, Not Flash

Monks don’t chase applause, they seek mastery. That means practicing:

  • Clean chord transitions
  • Slow, accurate scales
  • Perfect timing with a metronome
  • Tone and dynamics
  • Solid technique

4. Limit Your Tools

Many guitarists drown in options: pedals, amps, tabs, apps. A Guitar Monk thrives on limits.

Try this:

  • One guitar
  • One amp or no amp
  • One notebook
  • One piece of music at a time
  • You’ll be amazed how much more you get done with less.

5. Practice Mindfully

Be present. No autopilot. Pay attention to:

  • The intent behind your practice
  • Mental distractions
  • Your technique
  • Your Posture
  • Tension in your wrist, shoulders, arms, or jaw
  • Slow down. Practicing slowly is a superpower. It builds precision, awareness, and muscle memory far more effectively than rushing.
  • Listen deeply to each note. Don’t just play, hear the tone, the attack, the decay. Let your ears lead.
  • Practice one thing at a time. Don’t multitask. Choose one goal, like cleaner chord transitions or even vibrato and give it your full attention.
  • This turns practice into meditation and your guitar into an extension of your self.

6. Master Your Mindset

Before the fingers follow, the mind must lead.

Becoming a Guitar Monk isn’t just about technique, it’s about how you think.

  • Detach from results. Focus on the process, not perfection.
  • Replace frustration with curiosity. Mistakes are teachers, not enemies.
  • Be patient. Real progress is quiet and gradual, like water shaping stone.
  • Let go of comparison. Your path is your own.
  • Return to the why. Ask yourself often: Why do I play? Keep that answer close.
  • A calm, focused mind is the most powerful tool in your practice. Train it like your hands.

7. Commit Like a Monk

A monk doesn’t dabble, they commit fully, with heart and patience.

To follow the Guitar Monk path:

  • Decide once. No daily debate. You practice because it’s who you are.
  • Go deep, not wide. Master one piece or technique instead of skimming many.
  • Be loyal to the process. Trust the repetition. Trust the slowness.
  • Accept the quiet days. Not every session feels magical, that’s part of the path.
  • Renew your vow. Each time you pick up the guitar, return with fresh intention.
  • Commitment isn’t about pressure, it’s about peace in knowing your direction.

Becoming a Guitar Monk is not about being better than anyone else. It’s about becoming better than you were yesterday, through simplicity, focus, and devotion.

Anniversary

June 12, 2025

I must take a break from our regularly scheduled programming and either congratulate or extend sympathy to my wife for putting up with me for 55 years as of today. I was such an immature kid, can’t believe she survived. (Some people say I haven’t changed…)

Titles or Actions?

June 11, 2025

I’ve interviewed many CEOs, some of which led multi-billion dollar corporations. I’ve met and interviewed and worked with many people with degrees piled upon degrees. I’ve also worked with electricians on the factory floor and workers on the assembly line. They’ve almost all been good people, smart in their own way.

Jason Fried, CEO and entrepreneur, wrote this in an email newsletter recently. Something which I wholeheartedly agree.

Titles, tenure, and paths don’t matter. The work does. Always look at the work.

How is your work?

Where Have We Missed the Point?

June 10, 2025

I asked yesterday, Have we missed the point?

Maybe I should have asked, Where have we missed the point?

I looked at two surveys—one about young women leaving the church and one about young men returning to the church.

And I wondered about missing this point from Paul written to the Galatians, “There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”

So, where did we miss this point?

Was it missed 1,500 years ago and carrying forward until today?

How can churches become communities where everyone is accepted, no one is put down, as they work toward common goals of service? That is how Paul ended his letter on spiritual formation to the Romans. That is how the early church grew and changed the world.

We don’t proclaim inclusivity; we practice it.

There is a difference. In the end, people are known by what they do.

Have We Missed The Point?

June 9, 2025

A Tale of Two Surveys. Taken together, I wonder where the American church has missed the point. Perhaps using the term “church” speaks too broadly. There seem to be myriad churches with myriad theologies.

But, let us consider two recent surveys.

Young women are leaving church in unprecedented numbers, according to the Survey Center on American Life’s research. The center learned that young women are particularly concerned about churches that don’t welcome all people; that discourage women’s leadership; and don’t attend to community, justice, compassion, and loving one’s neighbor. 

Young white men are coming back to the church because it’s one of the few places that accept them (undefined, but a logical assumption would be those “evangelical” churches that condemn homosexuality and women leadership).

The Apostle Paul, loved by some conservatives and scorned by some liberals and misunderstood by most, famously wrote to the churches of Galatia, “There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.”

I ask, why are we still so intent on divisions? Why do we champion one group and put down another? Why don’t we organize our churches with this vision—you are all one in Christ Jesus?

Drip by Drip

June 6, 2025

Inch by inch, row by row, gonna make this garden grow. All it takes is a rake and a hoe and a piece of fertile ground. — Folk song written by David Mallett

A series of caves populate southern Ohio’s Hocking Hills region. Thousands visit Ash Cave, Old Man’s Cave, and others every year.

Drips of water formed these limestone attractions over the course of centuries. Patience, persistence, unending.

This era has been captured by the hype of sudden change. The organization, be it business or church or non-profit, will grow suddenly as if overnight.

Organizations, and yes, even our lives, are actually built slowly over time like those limestone caves.

Like the Garden Song, we hoe a bit by bit and over time we realize how much we have grown.

Love  Your Enemies

June 5, 2025

Love your enemies. Even the pagans love their friends.—Jesus

I’ve been on vacation in Virginia visiting sites that played roles in America’s formation. Thomas Jefferson’s Monticello. Williamsburg where Virginia’s delegates debated siding with Massachusetts in separating from England. Jamestown, the first permanent English settlement in America. Yorktown, where Cornwallis surrendered to Washington leading to the end of the “Revolutionary War.” Also bringing my wife and her sisters together again.

The trip fed many thoughts into my personal blender. Here is one:

Standing on the pier in the James River at Jamestown, I spotted a T-shirt on an upper-middle-aged man:

If this Fleig offends you I will help you pack.

My first thought—why has the flag become so politically divisive? Only conservatives are supposed to honor the flag? (I should note that our country has done many things of which I’m not proud. But still, it is my country. I hope I’ve done at least a little to support it. No one ever called me conservative.)

A second thought—Why be so pugnacious and in your face? Perhaps I have been too influenced by Jesus. Or, perhaps I’m not “feeling/judgmental” enough on the Myers-Briggs Types Indicator (I’m thinking/perceptive, which must be a minority).

I see this “in-your-face” use of language even from people who purport to be inclusive and loving (any United Methodist bishops reading this?). OK, I probably slip also at times. Feel free to call me out.

There’s a church loosely within my geographical area who had a slogan once, “Love everyone…always.” I’m not sure they did. But that sentiment obviously reflects the teaching we Jesus-followers are supposed to be practicing..always.