Archive for the ‘Disciplines’ Category

Getting the Message

May 15, 2025

Every day the social networks LinkedIn and Facebook send email messages. On the surface, they just want to  inform me about posts from people I know. What they really wish to achieve is my attention and presence on their sites. They earn income from my presence while viewing interminable advertisements.

I recently offered to a small group a meditation on words from Isaiah where God says that we should not fear because “I, the Lord your God, has your right hand.”

Sometimes reading isn’t enough. Sometimes we need to feel the message. God doesn’t pester us with endless emails. Perhaps we need to develop the practices that tune us into God’s “social network.”

We can practice stillness. Stopping our hectic pace at regular intervals leaving an opening for God to connect.

We can practice small support groups where the group can offer assurances to each other in God’s name.

These practices will take us a lot farther than endless scrolling on social media.

There is a way for us to get the message.

Sometimes Hearing God’s Voice Seems To Be An Accident

May 14, 2025

But practice makes us accident prone.

Even ten minutes twice a day practicing stillness and listening makes all the difference.

Setting a Compass

April 17, 2025

Sailors once upon a time checked a map to determine the direction of their destination. They left port, set their compass for that direction, and followed the course.

We have GPS today. I am contemplating a vacation to Scotland. Part of the desired destination is to visit the Shetland Islands. OK, only because we’ve watched a TV series based on a series of novels where the setting is there. 

I visited Google Maps. We would fly into Edinburg and spend some time. A ferry crosses to Shetland from Aberdeen. The GPS told me the route from Edinburg to Aberdeen (1 hr 27 min if you’re interested). When we visit, I’ll set the GPs for the destination and follow the course.

Some people teach that the goal of someone entering Christianity is to go to heaven (sometimes incorrectly visualized as somewhere in the sky) by praying a magic prayer. And that’s it.

That concept has always made me uncomfortable in the sense that it’s (one) too easy and (two) there’s no “then what.” 

I’m one of those strange people who believe that Jesus meant what he said. And, much of what he said taught how to live with God in the Kingdom of Heaven starting right now.

Perhaps instead of trying to short-circuit to the goal, we should set our compasses toward the goal and practice living a life with-God.

Just as I wrote a couple days ago, stories evolve in layers unveiling new and more important meanings. As we live out our vision of progressing toward a goal rather than being completed resting on our laurels, we live a better life.

Physical Activity Boosts Spiritual Disciplines

April 9, 2025

The idea of leading a disciplined life gradually came to me the spring following a “promotion” at work from a position in manufacturing where I walked constantly (before the days of tracking steps) to a desk job the previous summer. I could barely run to first base in the first spring softball practice.

That led to a discipline of early morning runs before heading to work. That discipline got me through COVID when gyms were closed and we had just moved to a new state. I lost some fitness and gained some weight, but it could have been much worse.

Two books came my way years ago—Celebration of Discipline by Richard J. Foster and The Spirit of the Disciplines by Dallas Willard. I have taught classes based on these books.

Recently I sketched an outline for a new class on Spiritual Disciplines. Thinking on these and my experiences, I concluded that a further introduction was needed for the students. Perhaps an introduction of habit forming, such as from Atomic Habits or the Power of Habit.

Then this report on research on exercise and mental health from Arnold Schwarzenegger’s Pump Club newsletter—Researchers conducted a powerful statistical method that combines data from multiple studies to uncover underlying connections between exercise and mental health. The findings were clear: physical activity was strongly linked to increased resilience, and resilience, in turn, was associated with lower levels of anxiety, depression, and overall psychological distress.

Before we jump right into studying prayer, for example, as a spiritual discipline, perhaps we need to pay attention to our bodies and minds and their role in beginning and maintaining discipline. Unless, that is, we join a monastery where we are forced to rise at 4 am for morning prayers.

Pursuing Spiritual Discipline is a “full-contact sport.” We must involve mind and body, as well as, spirit to the extent of our capabilities.

Justice for Me and Not for Thee

April 1, 2025

Sometime before high school, I know not why, I developed two principal personal values—peace and justice.

Maybe I was influenced by these words from the Hebrew prophet Amos, “But let justice roll down like waters, and righteousness like an ever-flowing stream.”

He also said, “Hate evil, and love good, and establish justice in the gate.”

Maybe from reciting the Pledge of Allegiance that we frequently performed as a young student, “With liberty and justice for all.” 

I heard this question many years ago about a simple phrase. It resonates now as I ponder those thoughts, “What part don’t you understand?”

How often we see people demanding justice—for themselves—resulting with injustice for another. “I’ve been discriminated against; let us discriminate toward another to make up for it.”

Where is the “for all” in that?

When can we build a discrimination-free society with liberty and justice for all?

Jesus taught us the two fundamental life attitudes that point that direction—we must love God completely and love (serve) our neighbor, who is defined as even the most despicable social group imaginable (for Jesus’s listeners that was Samaritans).

The Spiritual Disciplines help us here. This is not a daily practice. It must become part of our lifestyle.

Recognizing When I’m Wrong

March 26, 2025

Sometimes we believe things only later to discover we have been wrong. What is our reaction?

  • We quickly discount the new information as “fake news”
  • We quickly begin to search for ways the new information cannot be right
  • We consider the new information and change our views

The Myers-Briggs Personality Types Indicator in the third field poses a dichotomy of J and T. The J personality type would most likely choose the second alternative. The T would go with the third. (Hint: I’m an ENTP). The reason I prefer the Enneagram to the M-B is that the latter seems to imply a static personality. Proper use of the Enneagram is to explore what caused you to be a certain type with those particular nuances encouraging continually adapting behavior to grow more whole.

I propose we all need to work on using the third response. That is the heart of Adam Grant’s latest book, Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don’t Know.

The latest newsletter from Arnold’s Pump Club (a health and fitness newsletter I highly recommend for tending to the physical health part of our life) emphasizes that trend. Adam Bornstein, You Can’t Screw This Up: Why Eating Takeout, Enjoying Dessert, and Taking the Stress out of Dieting Leads to Weight Loss That Lasts, lists 31 myths that he has believed and taught in his past that he discovered later were wrong.

Samples:

  • All sugar needs to be removed (the poison is in the dose)
  • Motivation matters, and if you lack it, you’re weak-minded. (I’m embarrassed to say I once believed this; I’m so sorry.)
  • If you can’t stick to a behavior, it’s because you don’t care or don’t work hard enough. (Behavioral change is complicated and starts with shifting self-perception.)
  • Artificial sweeteners are harmful to all people (They don’t sit well for some and are completely tolerated by others)
  • Good foods vs. bad foods is a smart way to teach people how to eat better (it’s not).
  • Social health doesn’t influence physical health.
  • Emotional and mental health doesn’t influence physical health.

Let us pause and reflect. What things do we believe that we’ve found get in the way of a healthy spiritual, physical, social, and emotional life? What things do we need to leave behind? Where can we grow into a life full of gratitude and generosity?

I agree with the Apostle Paul when he said that our bodies are the Temple of the Holy Spirit, and we should take care of it. Of course, illness and infirmity strike. But somehow we can make the best of what we have. The myriad of physical improvements we can make certainly help us with our spiritual disciplines.

Jesus Facing Conflict

March 25, 2025

So many psychologists and other assorted experts have been writing about the many interpersonal conflicts within our society right now (as if that’s a new thing!), that I thought I’d take a look at how Jesus dealt with conflict. If I maintain that I am a follower, then I must look to him and learn from him.

I have outlined a short book or pamphlet on the subject and have begun the thinking and writing. I’ll probably outline ideas here. Feedback with other ideas is always welcome. My teachers both in academia and corporations taught me to write as if I know what I’m talking about. Many times it’s really current thinking that is always open for something new that can expand it.

Chronologically, the first conflict that Jesus dealt with according to the Gospels (Matthew and Luke) was with the person identified as the Tempter, the devil, Satan. I think if we applied this to ourselves, we would identify it as our inner demons, dark thoughts, emotions.

In the literature of spiritual development, a first spiritual “high” always precedes a time in the “desert” facing temptations.

Just so, Jesus follows his baptism and hearing of God’s blessing with 40 days of fasting in the wilderness. He was then faced with three temptations.

One was food. He had been fasting, that is, intentionally going without food as a spiritual practice to help one become open to God’s word. He was tempted to use his power (which we lack) to turn stones into bread. This was followed (Matthew and Luke differ on the order of temptations) by the lust for power. The Tempter offers him temporal power over all the kingdoms. The other temptation was immortality—jumping from a high building into the ravine below trusting God to save him.

Jesus calmly evaluated each situation. He turned the story from himself to God. He quoted from God’s word to refute the temptation.

I’m guessing that most people reading this do not think they are Jesus. How do we translate these into something meaningful for us in this era of conflict with friends, family, social networks?

We first become aware that we are facing an adversary—those thoughts and emotions that well up from deep in our gut. We must pause and consider. Are these things emphasizing bodily pleasure, lust for power, or prodding our desires to be like God?

We must pause. Then we can look to our teachers or our Teacher. He taught us to look first to God. What is God’s desire for our life? Can we muster the courage to turn our backs on temptations letting them wither and die for lack of support? Can we return to the practices that bring us closer to God and lead us to serve our fellow humans (and other creatures)?

Why, Why, Why

March 19, 2025

Del Shannon asked back in the 60s

To end this misery and I wonder

I wah-wah-wah-wah-wonder, why

Why, why, why, why, why she ran away

I come across this in my studies. I encounter it when I teach. Or even in conversations regarding  Bible study.

I don’t understand this thought. In fact, I think I disagree. This thought leaves me downright emotionally disgusted.

We have several options.

  • We can ignore the passage (hard to do if we’re emotionally involved)
  • We can just cut it out and pretend it was never there
  • We can call the author names and decide that not all the Bible is true
  • We can quit reading the Bible altogether and cut ties with Christians

—Or—

Like Del Shannon, we can wonder why, why, why, why, why.

I purposely wrote why five times. A time-honored technique for finding the root cause of a problem in manufacturing is to ask why five times. Imaginatively called the Five Whys, one will discover the answer usually before five. On a recent interview, the head of creativity at Disney said that in his experience it may take asking six or seven times.

<Statement>I don’t like this passage.

Why?

I don’t agree with it.

Why?

It offends my values.

Why is that, what values do you have versus those?

<Statement>

Why do you hold those views?

(Statement, maybe taught as a child or read it somewhere, etc.)

Why did you believe that rather than this?

<Statement>

But I add another step—

What if?

What if I can show you a companion thought that places this thought into context?

And so on.

Try this on yourself. Try it with a friend. Caution—when asking why don’t sound like a defense attorney cross-examining a witness. We ask why from curiosity. We must ask as a curious person who then listens carefully to let the other person fully explain. Pauses after the comment are acceptable. That shows thoughtfulness and consideration.

Good Quality of Life

March 17, 2025

Aristotle wrote and taught about 350 years before Jesus walked the earth, yet I think that Jesus would have agreed with much of his thoughts about life. For example, inculcating habits of moderation, generosity, and self-control. These qualities elevate not only mood but also the quality of life itself.

Happiness Professor Arthur Brooks says that Aristotle had a unique take on happiness. Instead of seeing it as something to be found, Aristotle believed it was something we attract by living well. He called this eudaemonia, or “good spirit,” and argued that happiness visits us when we practice specific virtues and turn them into habits.

Similarly, I think that following spiritual practices (prayer, meditation, reading, and the like) attract the Spirit of God into us. And when the Spirit of God resides in us, the quality of our life improves.

Hindrances

February 26, 2025

When a day opens with the same message from different sources, I pay attention. Surely God must be trying to tell me something important.

I had met some resistance with my daily meditation practice. An opportunity to study with a teacher for a period of time presented itself. He has defined through his study and practice seven hindrances (I love that word). These roughly align with what I learned long ago from John Climacus, aka St. John of the Ladder. These are:

  • Restlessness
  • Reluctance
  • Worry
  • Dullness
  • Desire-craving
  • Aversion-resistance
  • Doubt

He advises becoming aware of which hindrance is interfering and just sitting with it. Recognize it. Label it. Maybe play with it in your mind.

It’s a bit like Steve Carter observed in his book on grief—Grieve, Breathe, Relieve. Sometimes you just have to sit with your grief for a period of time until you can breathe into it.

The next thing I read following the introduction of the hindrances to meditation and prayer came from my health and fitness app. The moderator asked us to define what is holding us pack from our regular fitness and nutrition practice. The first step to getting back on track is to recognize that hindrance. Then we can deal with it.

What is holding you back today from being the Jesus follower you were meant to be?