We get caught in a trap. It’s like the little exercise wheel we put in the gerbil cage. Much energy is expended going faster and faster but going nowhere.
What we did or said really wasn’t that bad. Besides, it’s all their fault. Or, how could I be so stupid. Or, everyone hates me.
It’s possible that we could be that patient whom the psychologist told, “You’re not paranoid. Everyone does hate you.”
But, probably not. Most of the time most people really regard you positively.
And, so, it becomes our task to realize that people really will give us the benefit of the doubt. We just need to get off that exercise wheel to nowhere. We must step away from ourselves a bit with some self-awareness. Then deal with it.
A quick apology from the heart when we’ve said the wrong thing or screwed up something keeps us out of the gerbil wheel of blame.
Smile at people you meet. Most return the smile. And both of you have a little bit of sunshine in your day.
The calm mind wins the day. Warriors understand that the calm mind helps them survive and win. Athletes learn that the calm mind leads to superior performance.
It starts with self-awareness. And continues with controlling our breath.
Faith Venture 
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