Extending Love In Everyday Situations

“And then I felt his hand going up my dress. When I brushed it away and said ‘No’, he wrote a big ‘0’ in the place for a tip.” –A server interviewed by The New York Times

The life of a server in a restaurant or bar involves dealing with all manner of people from nice to aloof to rude to threatening. Restaurant owners in the US have discovered that they don’t have to pay them, either. Maybe they give $2.00 per hour. It is expected that customers pay the servers through their tips.

Remember when the recommended amount was 15% for good service? Then 20%? Now restaurant owners are suggesting 25%.

Traveling to other countries is a challenge. In some no tipping is customary. I was just in The Netherlands. I looked up online what was customary and how it is usually given.

The State of New York is considering legislation mandating a minimum wage for servers to help the situation. So, The New York Times sent a reporter to interview servers. Hence the quote at the beginning.

The challenge for women is how to be friendly, maybe a little flirty, in order to get people to tip without encouraging bad behaviour. It’s a fine line in many instances. You never know that men with a couple of “adult beverages” will do.

Therefore the commandments given to help us live a good life. Treat others with respect as we expect to be treated.

Women can be boorish, demanding, and cheap, I suppose. But some men go way too far into threatening behaviour.

Going out for a good time and a good meal doesn’t give us a license to forget our instructions on how to live. A smile, a kind word, and, yes, an appropriate tip, can make someone’s day.

One Response to “Extending Love In Everyday Situations”

  1. David Says:

    I was working in Switzerland the other week. For quite a time there was only one middle-aged lady serving and taking orders in the hotel restaurant. She did a wonderful job given the pressure. When I went to pay she apologised in broken English for being slow. I replied that she had no reason to apologise and told her what a fantastic job she was doing. The smile I received in response went from ear to ear. This was a definite leave a good tip moment regardless of what the culture expects.

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