Who is family

April 13, 2010

The teacher was doing some audacious things. He healed people from a variety of illnesses. Taught with an authority not heard in centuries. Challenged the ruling elite. Word was circulating that he was crazy, out of his mind. So his family, mother and siblings, rushed to find him and bring him home for rest and healing.

So the teacher used this as yet another teaching example. When told his family was outside the building and had come to take him home for healing, Jesus told those gathered around, “Who is my family? Those who do the will of God are my family.”

A little later in the story as told by Mark, a woman of great faith who was unclean, that is, outside the family of faith, touched him thinking that by merely touching his clothing she would be made whole and restored to the family of God. Jesus said, “My daughter, your faith has made you whole.” In other words, he welcomed her back into the family of God.

Jesus’ choice of words was certainly meant to shake up the preconceived ideas of his listeners. Get them thinking in a new, God-filled way about life. Think of the spiritual life as a life as part of a family composed of all who are doing the will of God. We watch out for family. We “have their backs” as the phrase goes. We do things for the family. But unlike a biological family, this family can grow. By seeking people outside the family and doing good for them, we can bring them into the family. Indeed, God wishes us to go outside the family and bring others in. Hence the parables about great harvest and others about bearing fruit.

Things you can do to help others

April 9, 2010

Ever get frustrated when someone tells you to do something in general without offering concrete suggestions? So it may be strange for a Christian blog to point to one that is not Christian. But Leo Babauta offers such great practical advice for daily living, that I love checking out his Zen Habits blog. (I don’t think he practices Zen, but that seems to be an “in” word for many advice bloggers.) In this post, he offers 34 Little Ways to Share with the World. It seems to fit the path I’ve been on for a few days on being doers of the Word.

Here are some of his 34 ideas to get you started. Maybe you can think of others. If so, comment here to share.

  1. Help an entrepreneur with a Kiva donation.
  2. Volunteer your services with a homeless shelter, soup kitchen, or other charity organization.
  3. Donate money, food, or others goods to charity.
  4. Bake cookies or brownies and share with a neighbor.
  5. Volunteer your expertise (whatever it is) to the world, and give those services to anyone who needs them.
  6. Give step-by-step instructions for doing something valuable you know how to do, online, for all to read.
  7. Give your books away to friends or charities.
  8. Start a community garden in your neighborhood, or contribute to an existing one.
  9. Give people a ride in your car. Carpool.
  10. Hold potlucks every week, rotating among friends/family.
  11. Perform random acts of kindness.
  12. When someone wants to repay you for something, ask them to pay it forward instead.
  13. Clean up a park near you.
  14. Share your tips with others online or through a free ebook.
  15. Smile. Be compassionate in all human transactions.
  16. Invest in a friend who wants to start her own business. Don’t ask for the money back for at least a few years.
  17. Make things, and give them to people.
  18. Read to the blind, help the elderly, assist those with disabilities.
  19. Start or contribute to a tool-lending library in your neighborhood.

What you give you shall get

April 7, 2010

One of my favorite contemplatives is St. John of the Cross. He not only wrote two great books on the contemplative life–“Dark Night of the Soul” and “Ascent to Mt. Carmel”–he also worked tirelessly to reform the Catholic monastic movement in the Middle Ages.

I thought of this while reflecting on Jesus’ early ministry. Mark uses an economy of words to report “just the facts.” He has Jesus on the move constantly either healing or teaching. As he teaches in Chapter 4, he says “the measure you give will be the measure you receive.” Jesus did not want a bunch of passive followers who just sat around feeling needy or wanting someone to make them feel good. Jesus wanted followers who were “not hearers of the Word, but doers, too.”

Linus in George Schultz’s “Charlie Brown” once said, “I love mankind, it’s people I can’t stand.” That’s the prototype attitude of a philosopher, professor or sometimes preacher and teacher. But Jesus turns that statement around. You need to love individual people. Love isn’t a feeling, it’s an action. You actively love individual people by acting–doing something for them with no expectation of return. The paradox is by not expecting a return, you actually get one. You get life with God. Forever.

In the same story about giving a measure, Jesus asks if a light should be hidden. And he says that in the light the hidden will be made open. In this way, when you do acts of love for others, you don’t need to boast about it like the Pharisees, but God’s light will make the acts known and God will know.

So, pay attention to what is happening around you. Then help out where you can.

Change the world by noticing someone else

April 6, 2010

Sometimes when you are deep in study of the details of a book, you need to mentally step back and remember the big picture. We just celebrated Easter. We celebrate the life, death, resurrection and ministry of Jesus. I put ministry at the end of that list for a reason. Jesus spent 40 days on Earth after the resurrection in constant ministry to his followers. He taught them how to really see and interpret the Scriptures and the meaning of his life.

Jesus ministry can be summed as the Shema “Hear, O Israel: The Lord is our God, the Lord alone. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your might;” and what he added later as the sum of the rest of the commandments to “Love your neighbor as yourself.” He defined the latter commandment with the story of the good Samaritan.

Liz Straus writes a business blog called Successful and Outstanding Bloggers. She reflected on the celebration of Easter and the example of Jesus’ life, and asked, “How will you change the world by noticing someone else?” It’s a good question. As we live in the post-Easter time, we need to notice others in order to do good. Our first task is to love God. The second is to reveal that love through the things we do for others. And through that, you will be given life.

Listen up to learn

April 5, 2010

Have you ever tried to explain something to someone, maybe give some instruction on how to do something? Have you ever seen the look in their eyes of detachment? Or have you had the experience of talking with (not to, but with) someone whose eyes are fastened on you and you can tell that they are listening to what you have to say? Isn’t that a great experience when it happens?

Jesus begins the first parable (story) reported in Mark by saying , “Listen.” He knew that many people would hear sounds and occasional words, but that they would not hear and attempt to understand the message. In fact, he quotes his Hebrew Scriptures that says that very thing.

Listening isn’t an art. It’s not necessarily a gift. It’s something we can all learn. Some are just better at it. It takes practice. The first step is to step outside of yourself–your worries, concerns, how you’ll respond to the words, what you’ll say next. Then focus attention on the other. That is the key. Attention. Life is about where you place your attention. When you are in conversation with another, or in a learning experience with another, place your attention there. Completely. Then you can absorb what they are saying. Response comes later.

Many times, I’ve left a sales call with a salesperson from my company and marveled that the salesperson didn’t hear what the customer said. He was too busy talking. Many times I’ve heard husbands talk about how they wanted to solve their wife’s problems while she was talking to them. I simply say, she didn’t want a solution. She wanted you to listen to her. Listening with your complete attention. Same with God. If you don’t place your attention on God, how will you hear and understand your call?

Listen.

It’s not a philosophy

April 4, 2010

Happy Easter. As Paul said, if Jesus were not resurrected, then our belief is nothing but foolishness. The more I contemplate God’s Word and get the foolishness of the theologians and philosophers from whom I was taught in university out of my system, the more I understand. Jesus did not teach a philosophy. The prophets, the foundation of Jesus’ own spiritual formation, did not teach a philosophy, either.

The prophets taught and showed by example a life with God. Jesus taught that since the example of the prophets wasn’t enough to persuade people to abandon their old way of life and live a life with God, then he would offer a more stunning example. He showed the way–probably why the earliest Christ followers were called followers of the Way. It’s a way of life and the way to God.

Philosophers and theologians are quite certainly serious. And reading them can be entertaining (for some of us anyway). But those paths lead to pure rationality. Rationality is important in your life. But first comes the person. We follow Jesus, not because he was rational, but because he showed The Way. Trying to figure him out can be fun intellectual pleasure. But the task of life is to simply follow his example. We follow a man, not a philosophy.

How is your walk going? I know I’ve sinned this week (if the word gets in your way, think of it as doing things that are not what Jesus would do) and drifted from the Way. But the cool thing is that we can always find the path again thanks to Jesus. So today we cheer him, because his example finally broke the barrier to life with God.

Take Time Away For Prayer

April 3, 2010

At the beginning of his ministry, Jesus would rise early and “get lost” to spend time in prayer and meditation. After he had gathered some people around him and begun preaching and healing in earnest, he would still take time to get away alone. Evidently this was as strange a practice back then as it is now for many. His disciples looked for him during his first public teaching. Couldn’t find him. He was out praying.

Then at the end of his physical ministry, he still took time to go off alone and pray. This time, he took his inner circle to pray with him. He still went off alone, but left them just down the hill in the Garden. After three years of learning from him, these men still didn’t get it. Jesus prayed, they slept.

Not an early riser? You can become one. Go to bed a little earlier and then get up earlier. It’s a perfect time to read and meditate and pray. I’m writing this on an early Saturday (I get up about the same time every day–between 5:30 and 6–no matter what time zone I happen to be existing in at the moment) and spring is here. Spring bird calls greet the sun’s very early light still dimly brightening the Eastern horizon. Starting the day like Jesus is a good way to focus and then try to live like him. Easter is tomorrow, where we remember the resurrection. There’s no better time than then to contemplate on the thought “God is good.”

Making a person whole

March 29, 2010

She is depressed, withdrawn, always sad. She does not interact with friends, neighbors or anyone at church anymore. In fact, she has disappeared from her usual society. Who knows why. Could have been a death in the family, a seemingly insignificant slight, a bitter disappointment, spouse throwing her aside for another. She needs help, but she has no idea she needs help–or that it is even available to someone like her.

Then someone enters her life, their paths cross perhaps quite unexpectedly for a moment in time. She takes the time to draw out her story and listen carefully. With understanding and perhaps some guidance, perhaps suggesting a medical examination to probe for internal chemical imbalances, this new person helps get her on the path of becoming a whole person again.

Sometimes an entire society seems to be fractured. The people as a group have lost their way. Are not a whole people as they once were.

It was into a society that was fractured and apart from God, with many people hurting and in deep need of being made whole again, that Jesus came. We have a hundred years of psychology where researchers put names on every little and big ailment and compile them in the huge bible of the trade – the DSM. In Jesus day, they would call it an “unclean spirit.” We sometimes use similar phrasing in everyday life. We’ll say someone is depressed (not in a clinical way) or troubled or even crazy. But these troubled souls possess a spirit within that is “unclean” that is not whole with God.

The first three chapters of Mark describe many instances where Jesus healed people such as these. He also restored physical wholeness to people with severe skin disease (leprosy) or a birth defect (withered hand) and to many more that Mark doesn’t describe in detail. Mark says that Jesus taught. What he describes in detail is that Jesus made people whole.

And then he assembles a smaller group–the twelve–so that he can teach them to do the same thing. After he left the earth, that is after the resurrection, the remains of this group did just that. And in turn taught a new generation. We are many generations removed from those days, but we, too, can be disciples of Jesus and bring wholeness to people we meet. You can do this by giving attention to someone else, listening to their story and offering guidance. You can also pray over someone with a physical ailment and bring wholeness of various kinds.

In my life, I’ve been with a small group of people who lay hands on an ill person and I could feel the healing flow. People who had cancer and then were checked and it had disappeared. I have no idea why them and not others. Or why maybe the cancer returns later sometimes. I guess we’re a little less than Jesus who was pretty much 100%. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try, though. Where in your world today can you bring wholeness to someone who is broken?

Answering the Call

March 26, 2010

You have a job. That is, a job where you earn an income. The income is traded for goods and services to keep your family fed, clothed, entertained. Maybe even a vacation now and then. You probably think about things other than work when you go home–or maybe even at times while you’re working. Sometimes you discuss the meaning of life with others at work. Sometimes you discuss sports or politics.

One day a guy comes by. You’ve know him, or something about him, for years. A strange guy with different gifts. Doesn’t have a full-time job. Doesn’t have a family to support even though he’s 30 years old. And he challenges you to leave your job and go along with him where he’ll teach you about life. So, what are you going to do? You go.

I’m studying Mark right now. Following Jesus’ trail. He has undoubtedly been studying for many years. You don’t become a teacher overnight. So one day he gets baptized and has a direct God experience. Then he goes to the wilderness to overcome the temptations that face him. Then he returns home and sets to work. In those days, teachers had followers. Actually, there is still some of that today–especially among PhD candidates in the sciences. Its not unheard of. So Jesus didn’t wait for followers to come. He needed an inner circle of people whom he could teach–not only intellectually, but also with how they lived their lives.

First he saw Simon and Andrew who were probably small businessmen. Owned a business, hired people, had a product for sale. Then he saw John and James. Same kind of thing. Except they were apparently well connected in Jerusalem. And Mark makes it sound so simple. Jesus walked up, said come with me, and they did. And over the course of the next three years these were his inner circle.

Have you been called? How did you answer? And when? Did you immediately feel the call, leave everything and go? Is it something you can do alongside your work? Will it become your work? Did you resist for a long time (many of us do that)?

If you haven’t been called, it’s probably because you haven’t been listening. Or you didn’t like what you heard. Because the call, when it comes, will force you to choose–how to live your life, how to relate to others, how to give up things you want in the service of what others need.

Get started, get to work

March 25, 2010

After the temptation and after John was arrested, Jesus came to Galilee proclaiming the good news of God, and saying, “The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God has come near; repent, and believe in the good news.”

You’ve had your “high” moment when you feel totally “at one” with God. There is just no higher feeling you could possibly have–and you know it. But then come the temptations when evil tries to divert you back to your former life. Emotionally draining, sometimes you begin to wonder about the reality of that experience with God. But you work through it with the help of God’s word and friends. Now what?

Well, you do what Jesus did–you get to work. What is your message? What talent or talents do you have to get on with living with God every day? Do you have the ability to heal other people’s emotional wounds? Can you uplift others with song or music? Can you teach? Can you speak? Can you make friends with someone who needs God in their life?

There are many ways to go to work. Remember the message–turn your life around by recognizing where you have gone wrong and deciding to walk with God (repent) and believe the Good News that Jesus has overcome evil and death and will share his victory with us. Then go to work helping others realize this and learn their walk with God.