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Making the correct decision

February 24, 2010

I’m in the midst of teaching my group from the book of Revelation. This is one of the most misunderstood books in the entire Bible. I’m sure that some of the class is not happy that I have yet to broach tribulation and rapture–but those aren’t in the book. Hal Lindsey in some books popular in the 70s tried to tie it in, but he never convinced me (when I read his books with the scriptural text open beside his book).

Every time you study a familiar book, you discover new ideas and truths that just never occurred to you before. With this reading something struck me very hard–decision. You will make a decision (whether you meant to or not). You will have to live with that decision. You will have to answer to God about that decision. God will show you the consequences of your decision (especially if it’s the wrong one). The amazing thing is that at least twice (I didn’t go back and count) in the vision, people who chose wrongly did not repent and change direction but indeed continued to sin. Then they were punished.

Do you know people like that? Are you like that? Say you’re faced with overwhelming evidence that your lifestyle is killing you, are you willing to change? Is your relationship at rock bottom, but you’re not willing to change? Is your relationship with God nonexistent? Are you willing to change your life and say, “Yes, God, I want to live my life with You”?

This is the season of Lent. A time of reflection of the meaning of Jesus’ life, death and life again. As the writer of Hebrews says, Jesus is the pioneer of our faith. The pioneer goes first and shows the way. All we have to do is change our life–every day of our life–and live with God just like Jesus did. Something to ponder during Lent. I will.

Phoning it in

February 18, 2010

Do you find yourself going through the motions–as they say–at your job or ministry? We have a phrase “phoning it in” meaning that we aren’t really involved with what we’re doing and are remote from our work. Marketing guru Seth Godin ran into a friend who is in the ministry who said that often she’s just going through the motions. He asks, are you doing that yourself in all your jobs? Shouldn’t you be doing something that you are passionate about so that you are spiritually moved by the effort?

I think we all can get sucked into ministries that we are doing just because we couldn’t say no. Then we just phone it in. I love to see those who are doing a spiritually active job. Think of the many ministries going on around Sidney First–outreach to orphans and to sexual victims in Mexico, the school in Haiti, orphans in China, flood victims in New Orleans, disadvantaged in Sidney through the Alpha Center and other ministries.

Don’t phone it in. If you are–quit. Then do something that excites the fire within.

Giving your attention

February 16, 2010

I travel widely on business and wind up having dinners with a variety of people from diverse backgrounds. I find that discussions can often turn to either spiritual topics or difficulties that the other person is enduring. Sometimes in the midst of business or engineering talk, another issue comes up. I need to be ready to deal with the new reality. Dallas Willard said that the first act of love is the giving of attention. I’ve noticed that before the giving of attention, you must learn to shift your focus to the other person so that you can then concentrate your attention on them. How often do you talk with someone and you notice that their attention is somewhere else and only superficially on you?

Jesus had this knack. He could be busy going somewhere, attending to something else, preaching, and then he would be interrupted. He could quickly shift the focus of his attention on the person, take in their need or question, and then deal with it in an appropriate manner. When they talk about being Christ-like, this is surely one of the elements.

Empowering others as leadership blessing

February 6, 2010

Here is an intriguing post about becoming a “leadership benediction.” I have been writing on how many people feel so powerless–even in a rich nation when they are (compared to most of the world) rich themselves. I’ve even read a book where the research was around how, for so many people, the more they have the worse they feel.

This post on leadership shows the power of a leader to bless someone else. To serve others, recognizing what others are going and taking some of the burden. Here’s a selection. My wish is that you absorb some of this wisdom into your daily life.

I encourage you to begin thinking about your leadership in terms of benediction. How can the influence and authority you are entrusted with be stewarded as a blessing to others? Jesus spoke of this leadership perspective when he said, “the greatest among you must be the servant.”

In their book, Resonant Leadership Annie McKee and Richard E. Boyatzis describe “the sacrifice syndrome.” To be an effective leader a person must make a tangible contribution to the enterprise they lead. This investment comes with a cost of energy, time, and resources. The depleting of resources must be invigorated by intentional renewal or resonant leadership that inspires others will degenerate into dissonant leadership that irritates folks. Boyatzis and McKee go on to describe studies that show renewal happens through “mindfulness, hope, and compassion.”

Getting power to the powerless

February 4, 2010

If the feeling of powerlessness pervades so many people in a country that the rest of the world looks to as powerful, how can people tap into the power of God? Preachers try to infuse the power of God through stirring, emotional sermons. This is not unlike the motivational speakers who tour the country speaking for up to high five figures for a talk. All of us who listen to any of these speakers–religious or secular–know that 99% of the time the feeling wears off before we get home. We all have heard of the unfortunate situations where charismatic leaders actually try to keep followers feeling powerless in order to enhance their own needs for power.

I have long thought that the problem with Christian churches is that we talk about things, but we don’t train on how to do things. Take prayer. There are many ways to pray. If you read the Bible closely (maybe even not that closely), you see where people went off by themselves to pray. Is there an instruction about what they did when they went off? No. Dallas Willard, when writing about Paul and his use of athletic training terms for following a spiritual life, feels that people who heard Paul speak knew what he was talking about. Two thousand years later, maybe we’re not so sure.

About ten years ago someone recommended Richard Foster and his Renovare Institute. Then I finally read Dallas Willard after hearing so much about him for years. Here are people who actually teach the way. They don’t speak about prayer and other disciplines, they teach them. The key is to know the spiritual disciplines and begin incorporating them in your life. Some of the disciplines include study, prayer, meditation, contemplation, fasting, worship, celebration.

It’s your focus and attention that matter. If you start the day with a time of focus and attention on God through study (read from the Bible or from spiritual writers) and prayer, then you will start to tap into the power that is there for you. Sorry, just like losing weight or quitting smoking, it involves work. God is there for you, but you must be there for God.

So, how do we change the world? By teaching one person at a time where to put their focus and attention and help them pursue the disciplines.

Powerful or Powerless

February 1, 2010

I’m currently teaching from Revelation. It can be a difficult and contentious book–if you let it. One of the major themes of the book is the relationship to the power of this world (evil, the Roman Empire, that sort of thing) to the power of God. “The saints” are continually praying for God’s justice to overcome the power of evil in this book–and the climax reveals who has the power.

There are two themes I want to braid while still thinking about the people in the last post who seem to need to vilify others. First, I think it is impossible to understand much of the New Testament unless you understand the worldview of the Romans. It was all about power. We got it–you don’t. It was a power based on brute force and military might. The Romans perfected a way of fighting that was superior to all for hundreds of years. Jesus’ message, on the other hand, was a power of a different sort. He overturned the Roman view of the world with a God view of the world. His view was that individuals filled with the power of God act differently from others. And he showed many examples of how people live when filled with God’s power rather than seeking power as the Romans saw it–or lived in fear of that power.

Let me pick up on that last idea for the second strand of the braid. When people feel powerless, they tend to react overly strongly. Often this reaction is verbal, but sometimes it is expressed in futile physical violence. There exist a large number of people in our society who feel that powerlessness. It is unfortunate that many call themselves Christian. That’s unfortunate because somewhere along the line their Christian teachers did not teach them the power of God within that makes you strong in the face of the Roman type of power. You’re strong enough to stand up to challenge and recognize who your real enemies are–and deal with them without taking it out on innocent people.

To drop a hint–God’s power won in John’s vision. Just as it won in Jesus’ resurrection. What we need to do is redouble our efforts to instill the Spiritual Disciplines in people so that they can live life within God’s power.

Why do we villify people

February 1, 2010

I’ve been thinking on this subject for many weeks when I ran across this blog from marketer Seth Godin. The bitterness of the local school levy was filled with high emotion, low fact and much, much vilification (making the opponents out to be villains). People are not necessarily evil just because they disagree with you. After several defeats, it finally passed last November–by one vote. It is almost three months after the election and people still are writing letters to the editor about the rich people in their luxurious homes foisting off higher taxes on the poor and elderly. Some even argue against their own economic well being. (One of the most vocal opponents to the levy is a rental unit owner. If the levy never passed, the schools would face massive cuts to state minimum standards, reducing to a very low number people looking to move here, reducing property values, therefore reducing the potential customer base for his rentals and the value of his wealth in real estate. Oh, if life were only logical.)

Godin ponders this psychology in his blog The False Solace of Vilification. Here is a sample:

A flood hits a town and innocent people die and buildings are destroyed. The widows and bereaved families take it out on the insurance adjuster or government official who has come to help.

The economic downturn hits a town hard and some residents attack, quite personally, the hard-working school board members who had nothing to do with the bad news and in fact represent one of the best ways to ultimately recover.

In each case, the person being hated on is precisely the person who can do the most to help. And yet sometimes, we can’t help ourselves. It takes significant emotional maturity to separate the event from the people in proximity to the event, and any marketer or organization that deals with the public needs to embrace the fact that just because you’re close to where the bad thing happened doesn’t mean it’s your fault.

Emotional maturity. Something I’ve been trying to attain for a very long time. Just when I think I’ve achieved balance, something happens and I explode. Fortunately that’s only once every other year or so anymore. But I’m sure we all need to strive for it. I once was in a training session for managers where the instructor put up one of those famous 2×2 matrices. The two axes were good/poor feel for people and good/poor emotional maturity. Research was done which showed that positive reviews of managers by “subordinates” centered around emotional maturity regardless of “feel for people.”

The next time you’re delayed at the airport because of bad weather, don’t take it out on the gate agent. That person has no control and sometimes knows less than you. However, that person can be your best friend in finding another flight. I’ve seen where one didn’t help the person in front of me who had launched a tirade. But I stepped up with a smile and said something like “tough day, isn’t it?” She got me on another flight, and I got home at a reasonable time. My goal–be that way in all my dealings with people.

The more I study the Bible and writings by ancient philosophers (and some more modern ones such as Emerson), the more I realize that the real message is about how to live. What will you do tomorrow when you first meet someone? How will you act? What will you do when you get up? What will you say? How will you act? Will you “live with God” or will you drift along with your emotions?

It’s a journey we’re on. It’s tough. Live with God to get the most out of it.

Living Consistently

January 11, 2010

Ever notice people say one thing, then act another way? I remember a teacher from high school saying, “Do as I say, not as I do.” On the other hand, Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “Foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of small minds.” The emphasis there, of course, is on the word foolish. So the real question of the day is–do my actions reflect my beliefs? Do I tell people how to behave while behaving in a completely inappropriate way?

I started thinking about this in a “church” context when I chanced upon a series of links to someone while searching the Web for quite another person. This person (female, married) is very much the director of the marriage relationship. She is outspoken (leadership role?) about the potential direction of her local congregation. Yet, what is the belief system of the local congregation that she’s defending? That women do not belong in leadership!

Robert Burns, the Scottish poet, wrote, “O wad a giftie gie us, to see ourselves as ithers see us.” (or something like that) One form of meditation is to take your center of consciousness outside of yourself and watch yourself as on a 3D screen acting in relationship. I’ll tell you, the ability to do this at the appropriate moment can change the way you act at an airline ticket counter or grocery store queue. It will also help you witness your faith more consistently and effectively when you see how you treat others and then act appropriately.

Sometimes I think we get so worked up about how smart we are intellectually that we miss the behaviour part of life. And what does Jesus evaluate us on? Ideas–or actions?

Believe in Christmas

December 21, 2009

Spent last week trying to get the January issue of my magazine out (my paying day job). Finished up Friday afternoon late after pounding out about 5,000 words including a 3,500 word feature article that day. Of course, I had hours of research and interviews done before I started writing. The fact that it was Christmas season (Advent to you traditionalists 😉 really never sank in. Now I’m in planning and catch up mode again. And I can let Christmas sink in.

But…do you find this a sort of contradictory time? How were you brought up? Lots of gifts from Santa? For most of us it isn’t a “church” day where you gather with your faith family and worship. So it’s more of a good time with/for kids who open (probably way too many) gifts. I’m not grinch, but I think this has gotten way too overboard. It’s too hard to remember what we’re celebrating.

My wife got out all her Christmas-themed dishes, plates, mugs and the like a couple of weeks ago. Today, as is my custom, I brewed a cup of French Roast coffee, and sat down in my study to read from my current spiritual book (“The Cloud of Unknowing”). Then I looked at the mug–no, really looked. It said “Believe..in Christmas.” The picture on the mug–no you guessed wrong–was of Santa. Wait a minute. Just what are we believing?

Without going into the meaning of “belief”, let’s just look at the sentiment. If I believe in a God who seeks us out (prevenient grace that I was just discussing) and who got perturbed enough with those who were especially called to recognize that and develop a relationship and who then took extraordinary measures to really seek us out, then what I’m trying to “believe” about Christmas is that I need to also seek out this Jesus so that I can have that eternal relationship.

I’m giving you a gift because I love (agape) you. In so doing, I’m trying to reflect the love (agape) of God. In fact, it is only through love that we can know God. I just heard this morning that the people of the Willow Creek Church in South Barrington, IL gave 10,700 coats to a drive to keep poor kids warm this winter. That’s an agape gift. If I also give a gift to my wife, children and grandchildren in the spirit of agape, then that’s great. If I just feel some strange need to be loved or appreciated by giving lots of stuff, then there’s a problem.

Believe in Christmas? No, I know Christmas. And I hope all my gifts have nothing to do with making me feel better or make me feel greater, but that they all just reflect God’s love.

When God Speaks

December 15, 2009

I last talked about prevenient grace relative to a discussion of the first chapter of Ephesians and the theories of predestination. So, the question occurred to me–when did I first feel God’s presence around me calling me to him? I think I’ve had that awareness ever since I could think. Even when I sin, I have had an awareness of God–and the disapproval of what I’m doing or thinking.

I asked this question in a small group and received an answer that for many awareness of the nearness of God didn’t happen until well into adulthood. Although I’ve had some big experiences of God, I never had that “salvation experience” that evangelists try to get you to experience. Many, on the other hand, seem to have no awareness of God. They just sort of travel blindly through life until one day they get smacked. Then they see the God that’s been calling them since before they were born.

I’ve been thinking about this experience of the awareness of God calling for several weeks. Sometimes you just don’t get it consciously. I have a friend in Brazil with whose husband I bet a bottle of wine on the outcome of a soccer match between the US and Brazil. We lost. Then I discovered it’s hard to send a bottle of wine internationally. I got busy and quit searching. Then I got the urge (hmm) to search again, and I found a company that sends gift baskets to just about any country. I’m a trusting soul (sort of), and ordered a basket with the bottle of red wine over the Internet, gave them my credit card number (a big act of faith) and hoped. Then I received a message yesterday from my friend. The basket arrived just as she was at a very low point in the Christmas season. It made her day. What a blessing.

Think that was God talking to me? Wonder what He’s saying now that I haven’t yet responded to? What about you?