Some people (often called husbands) tend to jump immediately to propose a solution during a conversation. Other people (often called wives) are fully capable of devising a solution. They just want to be understood.
The descriptions, of course, are somewhat of a generalization. I am not sure I can count the number of husbands who have expressed frustration at that above conversation whom I have counseled to withhold solution in favor of listening—with focus and intention. (I wish I were as perfect as I sound here!)
Let’s take that conversation to the next step when one person disagrees with the solution or any other proposal.
People don’t always care if you agree with them. They would like it if you tried to understood.
From the Prayer of St. Francis, a song by Sebastian Temple:
O, Spirit, grant that I may never seek
so much to be consoled as to console,
to be understood as to understand,
to be loved as to love with all my soul.
Faith Venture 
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