Boys to Men

Doesn’t it seem that over the past 20 years or so that the adolescent stage of young males has expanded? Where there was a time while in their 20s they married, got jobs, had children, and began contributing to society.

Then it seems that the growth from adolescent pleasures to maturity was put off until the 30s.

The problem of growth and maturity is not new. But we live in an age that seems to want to keep men irresponsible.

I remember being 18. A painful time of life to be sure. Rebellious. Pleasure-seeking. Being shy and geeky, perhaps I wasn’t as bad as others–but comparisons are foolish.

So I wondered about maturity. Here are some thoughts:

1 Corinthians 3:1-3 And I, brethren, could not speak to you as to spiritual men, but as to men of flesh, as to infants in Christ. I gave you milk to drink, not solid food; for you were not yet able to receive it. Indeed, even now you are not yet able, for you are still fleshly. For since there is jealousy and strife among you, are you not fleshly, and are you not walking like mere men?


Galatians 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.


Ephesians 4:14 As a result, we are no longer to be children, tossed here and there by waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, by craftiness in deceitful scheming;

What is lacking in the description of children is something to anchor the life to. Life is adrift from day-to-day. We live in the whim of the moment. We think that we can live without the fruit of the Spirit.

People will say, but it is good to live in adolescence all of out lives. But they are wrong. Growth and maturity is the way of the world. Only humans can choose the state of not-maturity.
And then at the end, you look and see that you’ve done nothing.

One Response to “Boys to Men”

  1. David Says:

    I agree! At sixteen I joined the Merchant Navy. I saved enough to put a deposit on my first house when I was 21. Later that year my wife and I were married. We have both now turned 60 and have five children aged from 17-37. We have noted a huge difference in attitudes in the lives of our children. Trying to get the youngest to understand the concept of responsibility is a challenge when society is sending him a different message.

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