“What happened to that couple?” she asked. “I haven’t seen them in a while.”
“She got mad at something someone said and quit coming,” I replied.
“Well, we should settle those things in the family instead of just quitting,” she replied.
Problem is that no one within the family reached out to them. I told a pastor who had a better point of view to address the situation than I. But neither one ever contacted the other.
Both Jesus and Paul addressed settling things within the family. They addressed a similar matter about taking a brother to court. But the point still was that we should settle matters.
Check out Matthew 18: 15-17 and the first verses of 1 Corinthians 6.
Let’s take a look at both sides and see if there is some discipline that we should apply
Jesus also told us a couple of time that if we have something against a brother or sister (meaning within the fellowship) that we should make things right before proceeding with worship. I think even modern psychologists and therapists would tell us that we bear some responsibility with initiating reconciliation.
Often people say things that they have no idea would be offensive to anyone else. If you don’t go tell them, they’ll never know. And everyone will wonder.
Sometimes you say something and think “Oops, I didn’t mean that.” Or sometimes you get upset and say things. Self-awareness brings the conviction of having hurt someone. It’s important to put pride aside and go make things right.
Letting things go never works. Don’t go off and pout. Confront with love. Respond with love. Work things out within the family.
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