I often find myself in small groups or conversations where people want to talk about other people. What they said, what they meant, will they go to heaven, what’s wrong with them in the smallest, goriest detail, and on and on. I have no problem praying for others–do it all the time, well, er, at least often. But where does concern end and gossip begin? Where does idly worrying about others end and loss of focus on my own life begin?
Thomas a Kempis, writing in The Imitation of Christ, says, “Do not trouble yourself with idle cares. What matters this or that to you? Follow Me. What is it to you if a man is such and such, if another does or says this or that? You will not have to answer for others, but you will have to give an account of yourself. Why, then, do you meddle in their affairs?”
My last post talked about paying attention to others. When you meet someone, listen to them, listen to their name, observe their features and attitudes. Care for them and listen. But then don’t go away and talk about them to everyone who will listen. And worry over a comment they may have made. Don’t interfere with your own salvation and walk with God.
Your focus must be on the present. What matters is what you and God are doing now. Don’t worry about the past or the future. Don’t worry about what others say or think. When you’re with them, love them. Don’t obsess over them.
Faith Venture 
October 30, 2010 at 6:32 am |
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