I vaguely remember a TV show from long ago where the main character’s line went, “What we have here is a failure to communicate.”
We think we said something witty or worthwhile or wise. We think we have communicated.
What in fact was communicated was what was heard.
Even in a brief cursory encounter a quip or witty saying can have unintended impact on the other. These sometimes cause hurt and lasting relationship damage.
Of course, some people intend to hurt. Avoid those people. They harbor deep issues.
Often the best response is to ask in a manner decidedly unlike a defense attorney cross-examining a witness, “I’m not sure I heard what you mean. Did you mean…?”
That is not exactly closing the loop. It’s an invitation to take the loop up a level, sort of like an upward spiral. Exploring meaning. Deepening the conversation.
Then communication occurs.
Faith Venture 
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