Listening

I travel a lot and took last week to try to catch up on work, soccer referee assigning and my other blogs. I’m trying to keep three blogs going and plan to start a fourth (covering high technology products). Take note of Darcy’s post on helping young adults. I try to help young people develop life skills and maturity through the medium of becoming a soccer referee. This weekend I was privileged to see no less than four young men of about 20 years old step up and perform a difficult task with maturity (refereeing soccer at a large tournament and dealing with coaches and parents requires a lot of strength). To Darcy–don’t wait on the blessing of “church leaders” unless you’re spending money. In that case, raise your own (hint, I have some money for good causes). I saw a General Colin Powell presentation where he advised, “It’s better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission.”

This week, I’m influenced by a high-tech writer and blogger (co-author of The Cluetrain Manifesto, for those of you in marketing), Doc Searles. He found this quote on listening. I have found that far too many people just don’t listen to others. They’re too wrapped up in themselves, I guess. Ponder these ideas and see if you can make them part of your life:

What deaf people can teach you about listening. The short version:

  1. Look people in the eye.
  2. Don’t interrupt.
  3. Say what you mean, as simply as possible.
  4. When you don’t understand something, ask.
  5. Stay focused.

I’d call all that common sense, if it were more commonly applied. Including by me.

Gary

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